(copied from mD)
posted 1/25/2006 9:11:10 PM
Ever have a conversation with someone for hours and hours and you get nothing resolved? yeah, well it's been one of those days for me. Sometimes I really think I am getting ahead in this dating life.. and then someone comes along and challenges me to a debate about sex on the first date. I am not totally opposed to this concept, but I can't say it's a given or it's a good idea. I guess if that's all you are looking for then why not. Two concenting adults can do what they feel is best for them. I am not the judge. But if the goal is a long term relationship with a chance of a future then I'd say it's not a good idea.... starting a relationship out like that normally ...... ends in a thud. But hey I could be wrong.. after all I am only human and realize that there are exceptions to almost every rule!
Friday, April 27, 2007
And so it goes
(copied from MD)
posted 1/26/2006 10:13:31 AM
the debate continued on today with no avail - with neither one winning, with neither one compromising. Is it being bullheaded? stubborn? or just two people defending what they believe? sticking to their morals? And so it goes with no compromise, no bending either way what may have been will never be because two people could not agree so they parted ways to begin yet another attempt to search out the one for them. ___________________________ Looking back on the memory of The dance we shared beneath the stars above For a moment all the world was right How could I have known you'd ever say goodbye And now I'm glad I didn't know The way it all would end the way it all would go Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain But I'd of had to miss the dance Holding you I held everything For a moment wasn't I the king But if I'd only known how the king would fall Hey who's to say you know I might have changed it all And now I'm glad I didn't know The way it all would end the way it all would go Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain But I'd of had to miss the dance Yes my life is better left to chance I could have missed the pain but I'd of had to miss the dance Garth Brooks~
posted 1/26/2006 10:13:31 AM
the debate continued on today with no avail - with neither one winning, with neither one compromising. Is it being bullheaded? stubborn? or just two people defending what they believe? sticking to their morals? And so it goes with no compromise, no bending either way what may have been will never be because two people could not agree so they parted ways to begin yet another attempt to search out the one for them. ___________________________ Looking back on the memory of The dance we shared beneath the stars above For a moment all the world was right How could I have known you'd ever say goodbye And now I'm glad I didn't know The way it all would end the way it all would go Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain But I'd of had to miss the dance Holding you I held everything For a moment wasn't I the king But if I'd only known how the king would fall Hey who's to say you know I might have changed it all And now I'm glad I didn't know The way it all would end the way it all would go Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain But I'd of had to miss the dance Yes my life is better left to chance I could have missed the pain but I'd of had to miss the dance Garth Brooks~
Sex on the first date .. continued
(copied from md)
posted 1/28/2006 6:31:45 PM
Ok, so because I said I wasn't opposed to sex on the first date, that it was something that had to be decided between two consenting adults I have been judged by certain people who just assume because I said I wasn't opposed to it that I obviously have sex on the first date with every first date I have.. coming from someone who basically insists that sex will happen on the first date or he isn't showing up I find this to be a bit of a double standard.. which if you haven't noticed it happens a great deal. From the beginning of time men have assumed that they can sleep with whomever they wish, whenever they wish and no matter what it's to be accepted and "normal" behavoir because they are men....but now if women behave like that, they are considered "bad" ...well HELLO???? if women aren't "bad" who would the men be sleeping with in the first place???
Committment.. or not?
(copied from MD)
posted 2/1/2006 7:43:20 PM
If you've been keeping up I have talked about the issue of sex on the first date. And may I say that I did get a few responses on those blogs. Not as many as I had expected, don't get me wrong, I am not complaining either way. It's a touchy subject for most people. But this issue has brought along other issues that could be explored. Let's say you meet someone, you have a great time with them and one thing leads to another and you have "relations" maybe on the first date, maybe the second..... at this point that's not the issue. The issue remains, are you now in a committed relationship? Let's ponder this for a moment or two and maybe we will find the answer. I wish someone would help me out here! lol I wonder about this because maybe it has happened to someone else and they have a way of dealing with it and understanding the "bs" that goes along with dating. Unless you say you are exclusive shouldn't you be allowed to see anyone you want and if that moves into the "relations" area shouldn't that be your right as well? I am not suggesting jumping from bed to bed is a safe or supported activity BUT I am saying that everyone has the right to do what they wish in a relationship unless it's specified just exactly where you stand with one another.. yes? no? maybe so? So, if the RIGHT person reads this understand that I am absolutely, so totally "un-confused" and would be very happy with a committed relationship with you if the distance could be overcome and that is what you want too.
posted 2/1/2006 7:43:20 PM
If you've been keeping up I have talked about the issue of sex on the first date. And may I say that I did get a few responses on those blogs. Not as many as I had expected, don't get me wrong, I am not complaining either way. It's a touchy subject for most people. But this issue has brought along other issues that could be explored. Let's say you meet someone, you have a great time with them and one thing leads to another and you have "relations" maybe on the first date, maybe the second..... at this point that's not the issue. The issue remains, are you now in a committed relationship? Let's ponder this for a moment or two and maybe we will find the answer. I wish someone would help me out here! lol I wonder about this because maybe it has happened to someone else and they have a way of dealing with it and understanding the "bs" that goes along with dating. Unless you say you are exclusive shouldn't you be allowed to see anyone you want and if that moves into the "relations" area shouldn't that be your right as well? I am not suggesting jumping from bed to bed is a safe or supported activity BUT I am saying that everyone has the right to do what they wish in a relationship unless it's specified just exactly where you stand with one another.. yes? no? maybe so? So, if the RIGHT person reads this understand that I am absolutely, so totally "un-confused" and would be very happy with a committed relationship with you if the distance could be overcome and that is what you want too.
Honest
(copied from MD)
posted 2/3/2006 6:43:43 PM
LOL...... just gotta laugh sometimes ya know??? What is it with some of the people ?? Do you really not know what it is you want in life or do you think that playing with a person's feelings is funny? When a person tells you- I want more then friends with benefits. You would think they mean a committed relationship right? Well I've been taking notes lately and it seems that most people who say this actually mean... I want more then one friend with benefits at a time! So just incase you have a person in your life saying this to you... you might want to sit up and take some notes because not everyone in this world knows the meaning of the word honest.. so just incase you don't have a dictionary handy.. I do! Honest- adj. Not given to lies, theft, cheating etc. Not false or misleading, true. Free from fraud, fair, equitable. Frank, open, sincere, straightforward. Hm... not sure about you, but I understand what all those words mean... I wish that the rest of the world did. Someone once said to me, "The bad guys make it hard for the good guys, every woman assumes the good guy is bad because of the experiences they have gone through" I used to think that this wasn't true but after the past few weeks of my research.. I gotta tell ya it isn't looking very promising. But.... once again I say I will not be overcome by idiots I will conquer and I will love again!
Honesty continued
(copied from MD)
posted 2/4/2006 6:47:36 AM
I got amazing feelback from my Honesty blog... seems a few of you agree with me on the friends with benefits subject. Even if this is the type of relationship you want or are looking for I have no problems with that in particular...... my main problem, main complaint, main issue..... would be the muliple friends with the benefits at one time.... and from my own personal experiences being told I want too much from a relationship? huh?? Expecting "faithfulness" in the bedroom department is expecting TOO MUCH??? I think there once was a time when a men slept with a woman he married her... I know things have changed haven't they? but when did the respect, the determination and commitment to make a relationship work turn into a conquest to see just how many people you can "have" in your life and go out and have fun instead of "committing" to one woman and having fun with just her? or one man and having fun with just him? I am not completely innocent myself so I am not passing judgment here I am just opening our eyes a bit. I've read many blogs on this site and if you haven't maybe you'd be surprised at the number of women writing about the married men on here looking for some "fun" some "intimate encounters" because their love life at home sucks.. and I am sure there's women on here doing the same.. well PEOPLE why does it suck at home? why not put your effort into making it work at home and if you can't then have the respect for yourself and your spouse to end it and then look for your "fun" after you have the consideration of being honest with your spouse.. I will give my ex husband credit in that department.. he wasn't happy - he told me - he left.. I was hurt at first because he wouldn't even try to make things better but at least he had enough respect for me and had enough ba**s to be honest about how he was feeling... it's taken a few years but we are great friends again which is a wonderful thing for our daughter. I guess this whole blog kind of comes down to people who are just plain selfish.. it's ok to be selfish once in a while we all need to do things for ourselves that makes us happy but a constant desire to just go out and play with others feelings is just wrong.. and as someone so nicely reminded me.. we can't change other people.. we can only change ourselves into the self respecting, full of self esteem and confident people we once were before we allowed the negatives of the world to ensnare us.. so here's to making myself a better person!
posted 2/4/2006 6:47:36 AM
I got amazing feelback from my Honesty blog... seems a few of you agree with me on the friends with benefits subject. Even if this is the type of relationship you want or are looking for I have no problems with that in particular...... my main problem, main complaint, main issue..... would be the muliple friends with the benefits at one time.... and from my own personal experiences being told I want too much from a relationship? huh?? Expecting "faithfulness" in the bedroom department is expecting TOO MUCH??? I think there once was a time when a men slept with a woman he married her... I know things have changed haven't they? but when did the respect, the determination and commitment to make a relationship work turn into a conquest to see just how many people you can "have" in your life and go out and have fun instead of "committing" to one woman and having fun with just her? or one man and having fun with just him? I am not completely innocent myself so I am not passing judgment here I am just opening our eyes a bit. I've read many blogs on this site and if you haven't maybe you'd be surprised at the number of women writing about the married men on here looking for some "fun" some "intimate encounters" because their love life at home sucks.. and I am sure there's women on here doing the same.. well PEOPLE why does it suck at home? why not put your effort into making it work at home and if you can't then have the respect for yourself and your spouse to end it and then look for your "fun" after you have the consideration of being honest with your spouse.. I will give my ex husband credit in that department.. he wasn't happy - he told me - he left.. I was hurt at first because he wouldn't even try to make things better but at least he had enough respect for me and had enough ba**s to be honest about how he was feeling... it's taken a few years but we are great friends again which is a wonderful thing for our daughter. I guess this whole blog kind of comes down to people who are just plain selfish.. it's ok to be selfish once in a while we all need to do things for ourselves that makes us happy but a constant desire to just go out and play with others feelings is just wrong.. and as someone so nicely reminded me.. we can't change other people.. we can only change ourselves into the self respecting, full of self esteem and confident people we once were before we allowed the negatives of the world to ensnare us.. so here's to making myself a better person!
(copied from md)
2/4/2006 5:07:41 PM
I love writing but it seems that there's a few people who find what I write to be a reflection of me having too much time on my hands and obviously having more then one friend with benefits at one time because I seem to know a great deal about the topic.... First of all.. I spend very little time actually writing my blogs. I type for a living therefore it takes me no time at all to type what I am thinking. I can think and type at the same time!! Second.... I know a lot about the topic because of the few men in my life, past and present trying this sh*t with me and once again I say.. it's a double standard world we live in.. it's ok for the men to sleep around but not for the women.. but if the women aren't supposed to be sleeping around as much as the men are.. just who are the men sleeping with then???? other men maybe???? and NO, I DO NOT by any means think all men are the same or like the people I discussed in my blogs.. and I wrote that just as much about women as I did men.. Which brings this whole thing down to one thing.... it's no one's business what you do with your life. I am not your judge.. I am my own judge ..... so instead of judging me and assuming I am practicing what I am writing look in the mirror and judge what you see...
Saturday Morning Blues
(copied from MD)
posted 2/18/2006 7:11:07 PM
Today I found myself waking up to a gorgeous day in Florida and me being depressed. It's a horrible feeling that sometimes just sweeps in quickly and you have no time to realize what's happening until it's too late to get a grip on it and shove it out of the way. My good friend came and took me to breakfast but never knew just how horribly down I was feeling. I nicely declined hanging out anymore so that I could barricade myself in my house and cry my eyes out. Which I did.. for about 5 minutes and then I got a grip and decided the best thing for me to do was to get out of the house, away from everything and everyone and just drive. (not really a great thing to do these days with gas the price it is.. but I do have a compact car that get's EXCELLENT mileage on the open road! My favorite thing to do when I am feeling down, or need to think about stuff is to just jump in the car, turn the radio up and roll the windows down and be "free" from everything. After about 10 minutes of driving I had a plan, after all you really can't just drive aimlessly, you do have to have some sort of destination in mind. I decided to go visit my very best friend Geoff, (who by the way, in case you are interested I met on this very site almost 4 years ago). Geoff and his girlfriend live about 2 hours north of me, so yes it was a somewhat lengthy trip, but was badly needed. Geoff and I hit it off right away when we first met, we talked for hours and hours on line and then on the phone. He called me several times while I was in the hospital having radiation after my thyroid surgery, he would take my phone calls at 2am when I was having trouble sleeping because of my divorce issues, he's just been a TRUE friend. I love him like a brother and have come to love his girlfriend like a sister. They were very surprised to see me standing on their front porch as I didn't call and warn them I was coming, true friends don't care about "the proper" way things are supposed to be. They just open their arms and say "so good to see you". We spent several hours talking, laughing and just enjoying each others company. I truly needed a day away and am really blessed to have such wonderful friends as them. They lifted my spirits to a whole new level and yes, the depression has left the building! Have an awesome weekend.. and for you race fans.. NASCAR IS BACK!!! YES!!!
posted 2/18/2006 7:11:07 PM
Today I found myself waking up to a gorgeous day in Florida and me being depressed. It's a horrible feeling that sometimes just sweeps in quickly and you have no time to realize what's happening until it's too late to get a grip on it and shove it out of the way. My good friend came and took me to breakfast but never knew just how horribly down I was feeling. I nicely declined hanging out anymore so that I could barricade myself in my house and cry my eyes out. Which I did.. for about 5 minutes and then I got a grip and decided the best thing for me to do was to get out of the house, away from everything and everyone and just drive. (not really a great thing to do these days with gas the price it is.. but I do have a compact car that get's EXCELLENT mileage on the open road! My favorite thing to do when I am feeling down, or need to think about stuff is to just jump in the car, turn the radio up and roll the windows down and be "free" from everything. After about 10 minutes of driving I had a plan, after all you really can't just drive aimlessly, you do have to have some sort of destination in mind. I decided to go visit my very best friend Geoff, (who by the way, in case you are interested I met on this very site almost 4 years ago). Geoff and his girlfriend live about 2 hours north of me, so yes it was a somewhat lengthy trip, but was badly needed. Geoff and I hit it off right away when we first met, we talked for hours and hours on line and then on the phone. He called me several times while I was in the hospital having radiation after my thyroid surgery, he would take my phone calls at 2am when I was having trouble sleeping because of my divorce issues, he's just been a TRUE friend. I love him like a brother and have come to love his girlfriend like a sister. They were very surprised to see me standing on their front porch as I didn't call and warn them I was coming, true friends don't care about "the proper" way things are supposed to be. They just open their arms and say "so good to see you". We spent several hours talking, laughing and just enjoying each others company. I truly needed a day away and am really blessed to have such wonderful friends as them. They lifted my spirits to a whole new level and yes, the depression has left the building! Have an awesome weekend.. and for you race fans.. NASCAR IS BACK!!! YES!!!
Awesome Friends
(copied from MD)
posted 2/19/2006 8:44:41 PM
What a gorgeous day it was today. Started out a little cloudy and misting but quickly made way for sun and lots of it. Sorry for those of you living up north where it's very cold and snowy. I am so blessed to have the friends that I have. I truly have awesome friends. Several of my friends have been helping me prepare my present home for demolition! YES!!!!! Ok, so not really demolition but it will be hauled away to mobile home heaven! I am getting a much needed new home this summer. So, trees must come down, porches must be removed everything moved out. My daughter will be staying with her dad for a few months during the summer and I will be staying with friends, told you I have awesome friends! It's a huge undertaking, very scary but I am SO excited to be getting a new home and ......... dare I say it? IT'S ALL MINE!!!! NO ONE ELSE'S name is going to be on the mortgage! WOOO HOOOOO I just want to thank my ex-husband for giving me the house and the acre of land that came with it and I am very happy he talked me out of selling it when he left. At the time I thought he was being very cruel leaving me with a house that truly needed a great deal of help but with those awesome friends of mine I have kept it together and will now reap the benefits of having faith and being patient. And to my friends who have stood by me and came to my rescue more then once for household repairs, I am truly grateful and honored to have friends like you and I will love you all forever! Sometimes in life we really do over look the blessings we have and just concentrate on the bad things that have happened to us, and we do nothing but whine and complain about it. Behind every bad thing in your life is at least 2 good things that have come out of the bad thing you just have to look for them. Be thankful for what you have everyday(even a house that needs lots of help! lol) because there is always someone less fortunate then you. Have an awesome night everyone!
posted 2/19/2006 8:44:41 PM
What a gorgeous day it was today. Started out a little cloudy and misting but quickly made way for sun and lots of it. Sorry for those of you living up north where it's very cold and snowy. I am so blessed to have the friends that I have. I truly have awesome friends. Several of my friends have been helping me prepare my present home for demolition! YES!!!!! Ok, so not really demolition but it will be hauled away to mobile home heaven! I am getting a much needed new home this summer. So, trees must come down, porches must be removed everything moved out. My daughter will be staying with her dad for a few months during the summer and I will be staying with friends, told you I have awesome friends! It's a huge undertaking, very scary but I am SO excited to be getting a new home and ......... dare I say it? IT'S ALL MINE!!!! NO ONE ELSE'S name is going to be on the mortgage! WOOO HOOOOO I just want to thank my ex-husband for giving me the house and the acre of land that came with it and I am very happy he talked me out of selling it when he left. At the time I thought he was being very cruel leaving me with a house that truly needed a great deal of help but with those awesome friends of mine I have kept it together and will now reap the benefits of having faith and being patient. And to my friends who have stood by me and came to my rescue more then once for household repairs, I am truly grateful and honored to have friends like you and I will love you all forever! Sometimes in life we really do over look the blessings we have and just concentrate on the bad things that have happened to us, and we do nothing but whine and complain about it. Behind every bad thing in your life is at least 2 good things that have come out of the bad thing you just have to look for them. Be thankful for what you have everyday(even a house that needs lots of help! lol) because there is always someone less fortunate then you. Have an awesome night everyone!
TGIF!
(copied from MD)
posted 2/24/2006 7:19:10 AM
It seems that a few of you take the blogs a tad bit too seriously. After all they are MY blogs.. MINE MINE MINE! lol Therefore I can really write whatever I want.. and if some of it tends to lean on the negative side then so be it.. doesn't mean I am a negative person. Just means that I have emotions and tend to be moody so there! Now my drafting partner blogs were embellished a little.. but they still are MINE MINE MINE so I can do with them what I want.. but most of the information in my blogs are very true - the embellished part??? well if you understand the delicate operation of DRAFTING then you would find what I wrote funny.... after all a bad *ssed Chevy Truck with a lift kit on it and mud tires with a compact car behind it would look like it was being swallowed up by the truck.. the front end of my car would completely fit UNDER neath the bumper of this truck therefore drafting really is not possible!!!! but that doesn't keep me from trying because I have Nascar in my blood and I drive like it everyday.. why? because I can! NEW SUBJECT!!!!! The comments about my man blog and the bad ones being the ones that stick with us women.. it's not being negative and concentrating on the negative it's being honest... You really need to realize that women are hit on by idiots everyday and get maybe two emails a week from honest to goodness men. (this of course does not include my wonderful friends who write me daily .... cause they care! ) All I was saying is it does get to be annoying trying to decide which ones are for real and which ones are trying to score with a line.. and no that isn't fair to the good ones but unfortunately that's the way it is.. and no I am not being negative just kicking in some reality people! Have a great Friday....
posted 2/24/2006 7:19:10 AM
It seems that a few of you take the blogs a tad bit too seriously. After all they are MY blogs.. MINE MINE MINE! lol Therefore I can really write whatever I want.. and if some of it tends to lean on the negative side then so be it.. doesn't mean I am a negative person. Just means that I have emotions and tend to be moody so there! Now my drafting partner blogs were embellished a little.. but they still are MINE MINE MINE so I can do with them what I want.. but most of the information in my blogs are very true - the embellished part??? well if you understand the delicate operation of DRAFTING then you would find what I wrote funny.... after all a bad *ssed Chevy Truck with a lift kit on it and mud tires with a compact car behind it would look like it was being swallowed up by the truck.. the front end of my car would completely fit UNDER neath the bumper of this truck therefore drafting really is not possible!!!! but that doesn't keep me from trying because I have Nascar in my blood and I drive like it everyday.. why? because I can! NEW SUBJECT!!!!! The comments about my man blog and the bad ones being the ones that stick with us women.. it's not being negative and concentrating on the negative it's being honest... You really need to realize that women are hit on by idiots everyday and get maybe two emails a week from honest to goodness men. (this of course does not include my wonderful friends who write me daily .... cause they care! ) All I was saying is it does get to be annoying trying to decide which ones are for real and which ones are trying to score with a line.. and no that isn't fair to the good ones but unfortunately that's the way it is.. and no I am not being negative just kicking in some reality people! Have a great Friday....
Captain Jack's
(copied from MD)
posted 3/4/2006 9:06:29 PM
Friday night my girlfriend and her two kids and my daughter and I were invited to Captain Jack's Captain Jack's is a seafood restaurant on the water in a little town not too far from us. My friend works for a seafood dealer and the owner of Captains Jack's buys his seafood from them. We were really looking forward to the experience as we had never been there before and it's always nice to try new things...... right? Well let me tell you, this was something new that I would have been very happy doing without trying! We arrived at the restaurant, the place was packed. Which we did expect.. it is after all Friday night and it is still "snowbird season" here if Florida. We weren't, however, expecting our table that was so specially picked out for us, to be so rudely given to someone else. (this should have been my first clue... ) After a 15 minute wait, the owner of the company, who had invited us, made those people move. I was a little uncomfortable standing there watching those poor people pick up their drinks and go stand in line while we invaded "their" table. (second clue) We all sat down and ordered our drinks and tried not to feel like everyone was watching us and wondering why we were so special! lol We were enjoying our time when all of a sudden this LOUD OBNOXIOUS noise maked us jump from our chairs. It's LIVE music time and they have the speaker sitting to the right of our table. The band was actually very good but the speaker was so loud we couldn't hear to talk to one another but we could hear the people at other tables screaming their order to the waitress. (third clue) After a while, we placed our orders and my friend and I sat and talked, as best we could between songs, while our kids played video games. I had my head turned talking to my girlfriend and when I turned back around........ there sitting beside me was a man.. staring right at me .so close I could see his heart beat in his pupils! He tried talking to me but the music was so loud and he seemed to not be talking clearly, not sure if it had something to do with his missing teeth or the fact that he had drank so much alcohol it was slurring his speech. I felt like I was getting drunk off of the fumes. He was beginning to give me the creeps. Not trying to be mean here but I think the ladies will understand what I am saying. You just don't want to be around these types of men because you value your life.. Well he kept staring at me and I kept looking the other way trying to find a waitress or someone to get this "gentlemen" to move. Finally the music stopped and he taps me on the shoulder and asks (what I think he said anyway) was if he could join us for dinner and get to know me... About this time my cell phone rang, it was my ex husband calling to talk to our daughter, but I smartly pretended it was my "sweetie" lol Thankfully the intruder got the hint and left the table mumbling that he obviously wasn't good enough and that I don't need a man... Thank God for cells phones and ex husbands saving the day! I'll have to explain to my ex the next time I talk to him because he is surely thinking I have lost my mind! Makes me think that this on line dating thing really isn't all that bad after all!
posted 3/4/2006 9:06:29 PM
Friday night my girlfriend and her two kids and my daughter and I were invited to Captain Jack's Captain Jack's is a seafood restaurant on the water in a little town not too far from us. My friend works for a seafood dealer and the owner of Captains Jack's buys his seafood from them. We were really looking forward to the experience as we had never been there before and it's always nice to try new things...... right? Well let me tell you, this was something new that I would have been very happy doing without trying! We arrived at the restaurant, the place was packed. Which we did expect.. it is after all Friday night and it is still "snowbird season" here if Florida. We weren't, however, expecting our table that was so specially picked out for us, to be so rudely given to someone else. (this should have been my first clue... ) After a 15 minute wait, the owner of the company, who had invited us, made those people move. I was a little uncomfortable standing there watching those poor people pick up their drinks and go stand in line while we invaded "their" table. (second clue) We all sat down and ordered our drinks and tried not to feel like everyone was watching us and wondering why we were so special! lol We were enjoying our time when all of a sudden this LOUD OBNOXIOUS noise maked us jump from our chairs. It's LIVE music time and they have the speaker sitting to the right of our table. The band was actually very good but the speaker was so loud we couldn't hear to talk to one another but we could hear the people at other tables screaming their order to the waitress. (third clue) After a while, we placed our orders and my friend and I sat and talked, as best we could between songs, while our kids played video games. I had my head turned talking to my girlfriend and when I turned back around........ there sitting beside me was a man.. staring right at me .so close I could see his heart beat in his pupils! He tried talking to me but the music was so loud and he seemed to not be talking clearly, not sure if it had something to do with his missing teeth or the fact that he had drank so much alcohol it was slurring his speech. I felt like I was getting drunk off of the fumes. He was beginning to give me the creeps. Not trying to be mean here but I think the ladies will understand what I am saying. You just don't want to be around these types of men because you value your life.. Well he kept staring at me and I kept looking the other way trying to find a waitress or someone to get this "gentlemen" to move. Finally the music stopped and he taps me on the shoulder and asks (what I think he said anyway) was if he could join us for dinner and get to know me... About this time my cell phone rang, it was my ex husband calling to talk to our daughter, but I smartly pretended it was my "sweetie" lol Thankfully the intruder got the hint and left the table mumbling that he obviously wasn't good enough and that I don't need a man... Thank God for cells phones and ex husbands saving the day! I'll have to explain to my ex the next time I talk to him because he is surely thinking I have lost my mind! Makes me think that this on line dating thing really isn't all that bad after all!
How will I ever get over you my one true love?
(copied from MD)
posted 3/5/2006 5:11:05 PM
You came out of nowhere and stole my heart
You promised to keep it safe and never to part
To love me forever until the end of time
You promised we were meant to be
That nothing would come in between
But now as the months have passed
You have grown distant and will not speak
I wonder if your heart feels like mine
I wonder if you think of me
I wonder how I am ever to get over you my one true love
(written for Mike S. )The Old White Ford
(copied from MD)
posted 3/28/2006 5:07:02 PM
Tonight on my way home from work. I found myself thinking about the '84 Ford F150 Pickup Truck my ex-husband and I used to own. It wasn't a pretty truck by any means. But it had character and charisma. It had no grill, both bumpers were bent at crazy angles, the drivers side window was busted out because of my ex slamming the door so hard every time the stupid thing wouldn't start. And when it rained, the driver got soaked. It had captains’ seats in it from a Van. It had a Coke crate screwed into the floor as the console. And it had so many dings in it from him hitting things it wasn't even funny. I will admit that one of those dings was mine. I rear-ended a lady, Yes, I know shocking that I could do such a thing but it happens. I did about $1000 worth of damage to her precious Caddie, but only a small ding on the bumper of our truck. At one point it even had a dead rat in it... and man did that thing smell. But like I said it had character and everyone knew enough to get out of the way when they saw it coming up behind them. - Hence the reason I was thinking about it today. I was driving home on the usual route, when the truck in front of me decided he wanted in the right hand lane and just jumped over in front of this woman with no turn signal or anything. I guess this angered her because she decided to jump over in front of me... but neglected to look and see if there was enough room for her to get over. Of course there wasn't so I slammed on my brakes and applied the horn, or did I slam on my horn and apply the brakes? Any who, She gives me this little wave like she was thanking me for letting her in. Well LADY I didn't have much choice did I? I would have loved to have that truck to just tap her gently and let her know that what she did was VERY VERY stupid. Road rage? Yes I do get it from time to time but only with stupid people like that who think they can give me the little cutsie wave and it's going to make everything all better... NOT!
posted 3/28/2006 5:07:02 PM
Tonight on my way home from work. I found myself thinking about the '84 Ford F150 Pickup Truck my ex-husband and I used to own. It wasn't a pretty truck by any means. But it had character and charisma. It had no grill, both bumpers were bent at crazy angles, the drivers side window was busted out because of my ex slamming the door so hard every time the stupid thing wouldn't start. And when it rained, the driver got soaked. It had captains’ seats in it from a Van. It had a Coke crate screwed into the floor as the console. And it had so many dings in it from him hitting things it wasn't even funny. I will admit that one of those dings was mine. I rear-ended a lady, Yes, I know shocking that I could do such a thing but it happens. I did about $1000 worth of damage to her precious Caddie, but only a small ding on the bumper of our truck. At one point it even had a dead rat in it... and man did that thing smell. But like I said it had character and everyone knew enough to get out of the way when they saw it coming up behind them. - Hence the reason I was thinking about it today. I was driving home on the usual route, when the truck in front of me decided he wanted in the right hand lane and just jumped over in front of this woman with no turn signal or anything. I guess this angered her because she decided to jump over in front of me... but neglected to look and see if there was enough room for her to get over. Of course there wasn't so I slammed on my brakes and applied the horn, or did I slam on my horn and apply the brakes? Any who, She gives me this little wave like she was thanking me for letting her in. Well LADY I didn't have much choice did I? I would have loved to have that truck to just tap her gently and let her know that what she did was VERY VERY stupid. Road rage? Yes I do get it from time to time but only with stupid people like that who think they can give me the little cutsie wave and it's going to make everything all better... NOT!
Ye, who are without sin, cast the first stone.
(copied from mD)
posted 4/7/2006 9:09:42 AM
When MD first added the blog section I thought what a GREAT idea. It opened up doors for many of us to have a place to vent, share, explore the writer within and maybe make someone’s day with humor or inspiration. But now… lately it seems that it’s just a place for people to criticize, demean and belittle. Have any of you really looked up the definition of a blog??? Well I did. "A blog is a web page made up of usually short, frequently updated posts that are arranged chronologically—like a what's new page or a journal. The content and purposes of blogs varies greatly—from links and commentary about other web sites, to news about a company/person/idea, to diaries, photos, poetry, mini-essays, project updates, even fiction." Source People, this is saying that you can put in YOUR blog basically whatever YOU want. I personally am so sick and tired of reading blogs that snivel about poems or lyrics or jokes … excuse me but what exactly are YOU putting in your blog that’s supposed to make me want to read YOURS???? Complaining about others blogs isn’t something I really give two hoots about. And it’s really negative and depressing. Once again I will say…. If you don’t like what someone is writing STOP READING THEIR BLOGS… it’s quit simple people. We aren’t in grade school anymore Toto. Last time I checked, It’s a FREE country (at least for now) we are allowed to have our own opinions; we are allowed freedom of speech. I used to love coming on line to read a large variety of the blogs. Now, to be honest, I only read a few. I have been so disgusted with everyone thinking what they write is better then someone who posted a poem or a song lyric or a joke. I am so disgusted with women and men boohooing about the winks they get or the emails they get when it’s obvious that they didn’t read their profile because if they had they wouldn’t have bothered contacting you, because they don’t fall within your criteria… all 50 thousand of them. I am tired of women bitching about the comments they are receiving on their pictures when it’s obvious they posted those pictures ON PURPOSE for the attention. Attention that you helped them get by falling into their trap and making comments on their profiles, pictures, and blogs for the public eye to see. This just gave them more exposure. Did you know... there are a DELETE button and a BLOCK button on this site? And they can be used FREE OF CHARGE. If someone contacts you and you aren’t interested: Delete the wink, Delete the email and if you’d like block them. Then by all means PLEASE MOVE ON!!!!! The rest of us really truly do not care to hear you moan and groan and bitch and complain anymore about who is contacting you that doesn’t match what you want out of life. Ever stop to think that YOU just might NOT be what they want either???
posted 4/7/2006 9:09:42 AM
When MD first added the blog section I thought what a GREAT idea. It opened up doors for many of us to have a place to vent, share, explore the writer within and maybe make someone’s day with humor or inspiration. But now… lately it seems that it’s just a place for people to criticize, demean and belittle. Have any of you really looked up the definition of a blog??? Well I did. "A blog is a web page made up of usually short, frequently updated posts that are arranged chronologically—like a what's new page or a journal. The content and purposes of blogs varies greatly—from links and commentary about other web sites, to news about a company/person/idea, to diaries, photos, poetry, mini-essays, project updates, even fiction." Source People, this is saying that you can put in YOUR blog basically whatever YOU want. I personally am so sick and tired of reading blogs that snivel about poems or lyrics or jokes … excuse me but what exactly are YOU putting in your blog that’s supposed to make me want to read YOURS???? Complaining about others blogs isn’t something I really give two hoots about. And it’s really negative and depressing. Once again I will say…. If you don’t like what someone is writing STOP READING THEIR BLOGS… it’s quit simple people. We aren’t in grade school anymore Toto. Last time I checked, It’s a FREE country (at least for now) we are allowed to have our own opinions; we are allowed freedom of speech. I used to love coming on line to read a large variety of the blogs. Now, to be honest, I only read a few. I have been so disgusted with everyone thinking what they write is better then someone who posted a poem or a song lyric or a joke. I am so disgusted with women and men boohooing about the winks they get or the emails they get when it’s obvious that they didn’t read their profile because if they had they wouldn’t have bothered contacting you, because they don’t fall within your criteria… all 50 thousand of them. I am tired of women bitching about the comments they are receiving on their pictures when it’s obvious they posted those pictures ON PURPOSE for the attention. Attention that you helped them get by falling into their trap and making comments on their profiles, pictures, and blogs for the public eye to see. This just gave them more exposure. Did you know... there are a DELETE button and a BLOCK button on this site? And they can be used FREE OF CHARGE. If someone contacts you and you aren’t interested: Delete the wink, Delete the email and if you’d like block them. Then by all means PLEASE MOVE ON!!!!! The rest of us really truly do not care to hear you moan and groan and bitch and complain anymore about who is contacting you that doesn’t match what you want out of life. Ever stop to think that YOU just might NOT be what they want either???
Clingy people…
(copied from md)
posted 4/10/2006 11:48:00 AM
Let’s first define what “cling” means ..shall we? Cling 1.To hold fast or adhere to something, as by grasping, sticking, embracing, or entwining: clung to the rope to keep from falling; fabrics that cling to the body. 2.To remain close; resist separation: We clung together in the storm. 3.To remain emotionally attached; hold on: clinging to outdated customs. Ever notice how sometimes the very thing that we do to others is the very thing that DRIVES us crazy when it’s done to us?????? I used to have someone in my life that thought I was clingy and pushy. After a two month separation from this person we have been back in touch. At first I found myself wanting constant contact with him, mainly because I had questions and I wanted answers… and I wanted them NOW! That’s just who I am! Of course this made him feel I was getting back into the pushy clingy thing again. And because he wasn’t answering my questions I felt he was also getting into the shutting me out not talking thing again. It’s a vicious circle with us it seems, probably why it didn’t work in the first place, neither one of us was willing to bend and change our behavior for the other one, but that doesn’t mean the circle can’t be broken and turned around. Right? I have noticed, if I ignore or don’t have contact with him for a while he will contact me and want to talk. This makes it seem like a control issue, huh? And it might be. I think there are a great number of people out there that have issues from previous relationships and they tend to change at least some part of them so that the mistakes are not repeated. In his case he had no control… now he wants it all. I have to say after the past few weeks I now completely and truly understand where he is coming from with feeling I am clingy at times… and I will stop doing that to him! Because it’s VERY ANNOYING! I was under the impression that women are the only ones who tend to be clingy and pushy…. But WRONG! (I know this is about the third time I have admitted to being wrong about something… don’t get too used to it… k?) I have more men friends then I do female and out of those friends I have noticed that many of them are very clingy.… (And very pushy). They will call and text many many many times in one day. WHY? If I didn’t respond to you the first time you called, and said call me, or sent a text and said call me, there is a reason for it. (just like there was a reason for my ex to not respond to my 20 messages in a day! lol are you getting the picture?) I might be busy… I might not have my phone with me… or my phone might not be working properly. (Nextel isn’t known for great service... just great direct connect features! ) or I just might not want to talk to you or anyone at the moment, nothing personal but I am not desperate to have someone in my life that I have to be glued to my phone or my computer. I do not and will not EVER call back ANYONE, male or female that can not leave more then a “call me” message on my voice mail. If it’s important enough for me to return your call, then it’s important enough for you to give me some kind of hint about what you want to talk about, it’s called being courteous, don’t ya think? Even if you are only calling to see how I am… if it’s asking too much to leave a little detail then maybe we aren’t a good fit, friends or otherwise.
How to Supervise People.
(copied from md)
posted 4/14/2006 11:02:34 AM
Yesterday I spent the day in a seminar learning how to supervise people. Something I have been doing for the past 3 years. But realize there's always room for improvement. It turned out to be a very interesting seminar. The speaker was excellent at capturing our attention and keeping it. I am happy my employer gave me the opportunity to attend, and I take back everything I ever said about him! (just kidding- he's a very nice man) I am not really convinced that what I learned can be applied in my everyday work environment, but I most certainly learned some valuable things that I can and will apply to my personal life. I will share them with you, and you can apply them to your personal lives as well, or not! lol But remember.... it is FREE ! First we should all tape a Q-tip to several things in our lives; bathroom mirror, TV, computer, rearview mirror, computer at work, coffee cup. Etc. You're asking me why?... Right? Well because it's to be used as a reminder to Quit Taking It Personally! Yes this would apply in my job to remind me that everyone has a bad day now and then and it's OK. But I think it's more relevant in my personal life where I tend to let people and things bother me. But do you know that when we let people and things bother us to the point of being angry and upset and loosing our temper. We have done nothing but give that person or thing control of our emotions. Why would you want someone else to be in control of your emotions? or feelings? You wouldn't ... so why do you let it happen? hm? Next we should all realize that we can't just sit around on our lilly pads and expect things to change. We have to be willing to move ourselves off of the lilly pad and make changes in us before we expect to make changes in our jobs, personal lives, government and so on. So the next time you get angry at someone and you allow that anger to fester to the point of causing you issues, remember who's in control of your emotions. YOU ARE!!!! So stop letting the other person or thing make you angry! Oh I so needed this lesson. I have been letting someone from my past irritate the crap out of me and for the past few days I have been in a horrible mood because of it. BUT after that little lesson I will no longer be allowing him to make me angry I have taken control of the situation and control of my emotions and I will be OK! So what or whom have you allowed to push you over the edge and allowed to control your emotions? Isn't it time to take that control back? Isn't it time to get off of your lilly pad and make some changes?
posted 4/14/2006 11:02:34 AM
Yesterday I spent the day in a seminar learning how to supervise people. Something I have been doing for the past 3 years. But realize there's always room for improvement. It turned out to be a very interesting seminar. The speaker was excellent at capturing our attention and keeping it. I am happy my employer gave me the opportunity to attend, and I take back everything I ever said about him! (just kidding- he's a very nice man) I am not really convinced that what I learned can be applied in my everyday work environment, but I most certainly learned some valuable things that I can and will apply to my personal life. I will share them with you, and you can apply them to your personal lives as well, or not! lol But remember.... it is FREE ! First we should all tape a Q-tip to several things in our lives; bathroom mirror, TV, computer, rearview mirror, computer at work, coffee cup. Etc. You're asking me why?... Right? Well because it's to be used as a reminder to Quit Taking It Personally! Yes this would apply in my job to remind me that everyone has a bad day now and then and it's OK. But I think it's more relevant in my personal life where I tend to let people and things bother me. But do you know that when we let people and things bother us to the point of being angry and upset and loosing our temper. We have done nothing but give that person or thing control of our emotions. Why would you want someone else to be in control of your emotions? or feelings? You wouldn't ... so why do you let it happen? hm? Next we should all realize that we can't just sit around on our lilly pads and expect things to change. We have to be willing to move ourselves off of the lilly pad and make changes in us before we expect to make changes in our jobs, personal lives, government and so on. So the next time you get angry at someone and you allow that anger to fester to the point of causing you issues, remember who's in control of your emotions. YOU ARE!!!! So stop letting the other person or thing make you angry! Oh I so needed this lesson. I have been letting someone from my past irritate the crap out of me and for the past few days I have been in a horrible mood because of it. BUT after that little lesson I will no longer be allowing him to make me angry I have taken control of the situation and control of my emotions and I will be OK! So what or whom have you allowed to push you over the edge and allowed to control your emotions? Isn't it time to take that control back? Isn't it time to get off of your lilly pad and make some changes?
Circumstances.... Crazy Circumstances
(copied from MD)
posted 4/18/2006 6:39:40 PM
I few blogs ago I told how my ex-boyfriend contacted me and wanted to work things out. We've been talking every once in a while since then. Weren't making much progress but ya know that's life sometimes. Things started getting nasty a few days ago and just kind of went completely down hill since then. I found out that one of my friends from work has been contacting him and a few of the ladies in his friends list trying to cause problems. I know her intentions were good and her heart was in the right place but in reality it only pushed him further away. This morning he finally contacted me. Me thinking it was to settle things between us was completely thrown off guard when he told me he was going to make me happy by killing himself. I wouldn't have to worry about him anymore and all of his problems would be solved. Well his might but what about the people who care about him and love him? Oh I know that this was likely a ploy to get my sympathy and it worked but it also made me very angry that he could even think about doing something like that. Especially if it was just to gain sympathy. But in the same respect it was also a cry for help. So I reached out to two different people on this site and they pulled through for me in a wonderful way. I was given a shoulder to cry on, support, advice and prayers. I want to thank them for being there for me. You are true friends! This whole situation drained me emotionally. But also made me very thankful that I have my life together. I am by no means perfect but I have people that I can reach out to and ask for help and I am not afraid to do that. Some people are for fear it will make them weak. Or people will think less of them. It also showed me that not everyone knows what unconditional love is. I could have sat back and judged him like most other people would have or shown him the love that God has shown me. I decided to show him the Love that God has given me. I do not know what effect that will have on him but at the moment he is rethinking his life and working things out with his parents and his employer. He and I have also made amends.Where it will go from here I do not know. But I am happy with being friends and knowing that maybe I helped him in some way that will change his life. So my day ended up much better then it started out. Thank God for that!
posted 4/18/2006 6:39:40 PM
I few blogs ago I told how my ex-boyfriend contacted me and wanted to work things out. We've been talking every once in a while since then. Weren't making much progress but ya know that's life sometimes. Things started getting nasty a few days ago and just kind of went completely down hill since then. I found out that one of my friends from work has been contacting him and a few of the ladies in his friends list trying to cause problems. I know her intentions were good and her heart was in the right place but in reality it only pushed him further away. This morning he finally contacted me. Me thinking it was to settle things between us was completely thrown off guard when he told me he was going to make me happy by killing himself. I wouldn't have to worry about him anymore and all of his problems would be solved. Well his might but what about the people who care about him and love him? Oh I know that this was likely a ploy to get my sympathy and it worked but it also made me very angry that he could even think about doing something like that. Especially if it was just to gain sympathy. But in the same respect it was also a cry for help. So I reached out to two different people on this site and they pulled through for me in a wonderful way. I was given a shoulder to cry on, support, advice and prayers. I want to thank them for being there for me. You are true friends! This whole situation drained me emotionally. But also made me very thankful that I have my life together. I am by no means perfect but I have people that I can reach out to and ask for help and I am not afraid to do that. Some people are for fear it will make them weak. Or people will think less of them. It also showed me that not everyone knows what unconditional love is. I could have sat back and judged him like most other people would have or shown him the love that God has shown me. I decided to show him the Love that God has given me. I do not know what effect that will have on him but at the moment he is rethinking his life and working things out with his parents and his employer. He and I have also made amends.Where it will go from here I do not know. But I am happy with being friends and knowing that maybe I helped him in some way that will change his life. So my day ended up much better then it started out. Thank God for that!
Bitterness or Blessings?
(copied from MD)
posted 4/21/2006 4:47:51 PM
Isn't it amazing what happens when we open our hearts and forgive others? Hello???? Yes, talking to YOU!!!! The blessings that come back to us are truly amazing. If you don't know what I am talking about, maybe you should try a lesson in unconditional love and see where it gets you. First forgive youself: We are human, and we do make mistakes. Stop beating yourself up over it. Second forgive the person who has hurt you: Don't just say you forgive them, mean it!!!! The DEEP down inside forgiveness and tell them that you forgive them. This might take a while to work up to... but you can do it! Third once you have truly forgiven them: Talk about the things that upset you, the things that hurt you. This might take a while to work up to... too... but you can do it! Fourth once you have talked about the past: Let it go. Once you let it go you will heal and along with healing will come the blessings. If everyone practiced forgiveness and unconditional love we'd all be better off. I personally feel these things helped me with my healing process from my divorce and from my health issues. Bitterness is like a cancer... it will eat you up inside until there is nothing left but misery. The difference between the two??? YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT THE BITTERNESS!!!!!!!!! YOU HAVE THE CONTROL OVER IT!!! YES YOU!!!! There seems to be many miserable people on this site. If you aren't happy with yourself... deep down inside happy, the solution isn't finding "the one" or someone to love. The solution is make yourself happy first then the rest of it will fall into place. Why be miserable when you can be HAPPY? And Yes there is a story behind this blog but I will only share with my close personal friends. Somethings are meant to be kept off of a dating site!
More tid bits from Seminar
(copied from MD)
posted 4/26/2006 8:16:59 AM
Here's a few more things from the How to Supervise People Seminar I attended. You might be able to use these in your own life... or not! lol It is not the events in our lives that matter. What matters is how we deal with those events. When you are dealing with another person, you are their event. Bull stuff - lies we tell others Horse stuff - lies we tell ourselves Successful people make habits of things failures refuse to do. If you don't make a mistake occasionally, you're not trying hard enough! Manager – manages things Leader – manages people They work with you, not for you. There isn't really an EASY BUTTON!
How much is too much?
(copied from MD)
posted 5/8/2006 4:49:04 PM
I spent sometime with one of my friends last weekend. Things were a little rough at first, we hadn't seen each other in almost 4 months. Thankfully everything has calmed down since then. But during one of our many conversations he informed me he hates it when I analyze him. So….. I thought about this for a while. I realized that he is correct. I do analyze but it’s not just him that I spend time analyzing. Hell I analyze myself all the time. So now I am wondering when did this habit of analyzing begin? Is there such a thing as over analyzing?? If you don’t want to be analyzed does that mean you have something to hide? In thinking about these things the last week or so, I think that my “analyzing” came from the many sessions with the counselor while going through my divorce. Momma always told me not to go to a counselor. “They will screw with your head”..... maybe momma was right? LOL Seriously I think that analyzing oneself is necessary. Maybe even analyzing others is necessary. I don’t mean to do this but when you are dealing with the type of person my friend is, it’s good to be on your toes and to find the hidden answers. Or maybe it’s just the old sayings…. been there, done that – fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me – maybe I am just being skeptical or is it being careful? Whatever the reason I do find myself wondering why people say and do the things they do? They will say something that sounds reasonable and good. BUT when you put it into perspective with their life it makes no sense AT ALL. So I question why? And I get told I am analyzing or mothering. God forbid we mother someone huh? But if you don’t have your life together and you’re coming to me for help, or you are reaching out to me in a time of depression and despair... Doesn’t that give me the right as a friend to: Analyze? Make Suggestions? Offer Solutions? Offer Constructive Criticism? I never said you had to do what I say or suggest but if you don’t like what I have to say then don’t give me a reason to tell it like it is…. Or at least the way I see it. I can understand him being upset if I was just analyzing his life for the hell of it. But it’s not like that at all. We’ve been through a lot together and have survived … stronger and closer then we were, even though it’s been a very hard battle. Sometimes I ask myself why I stay… see? Analyzing! Lol I think that if you don’t analyze and access the situation from time to time you just may end up realizing you’re in much deeper bull stuff then you were before.
posted 5/8/2006 4:49:04 PM
I spent sometime with one of my friends last weekend. Things were a little rough at first, we hadn't seen each other in almost 4 months. Thankfully everything has calmed down since then. But during one of our many conversations he informed me he hates it when I analyze him. So….. I thought about this for a while. I realized that he is correct. I do analyze but it’s not just him that I spend time analyzing. Hell I analyze myself all the time. So now I am wondering when did this habit of analyzing begin? Is there such a thing as over analyzing?? If you don’t want to be analyzed does that mean you have something to hide? In thinking about these things the last week or so, I think that my “analyzing” came from the many sessions with the counselor while going through my divorce. Momma always told me not to go to a counselor. “They will screw with your head”..... maybe momma was right? LOL Seriously I think that analyzing oneself is necessary. Maybe even analyzing others is necessary. I don’t mean to do this but when you are dealing with the type of person my friend is, it’s good to be on your toes and to find the hidden answers. Or maybe it’s just the old sayings…. been there, done that – fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me – maybe I am just being skeptical or is it being careful? Whatever the reason I do find myself wondering why people say and do the things they do? They will say something that sounds reasonable and good. BUT when you put it into perspective with their life it makes no sense AT ALL. So I question why? And I get told I am analyzing or mothering. God forbid we mother someone huh? But if you don’t have your life together and you’re coming to me for help, or you are reaching out to me in a time of depression and despair... Doesn’t that give me the right as a friend to: Analyze? Make Suggestions? Offer Solutions? Offer Constructive Criticism? I never said you had to do what I say or suggest but if you don’t like what I have to say then don’t give me a reason to tell it like it is…. Or at least the way I see it. I can understand him being upset if I was just analyzing his life for the hell of it. But it’s not like that at all. We’ve been through a lot together and have survived … stronger and closer then we were, even though it’s been a very hard battle. Sometimes I ask myself why I stay… see? Analyzing! Lol I think that if you don’t analyze and access the situation from time to time you just may end up realizing you’re in much deeper bull stuff then you were before.
Analyzing ... Update
(copied from MD)
posted 5/9/2006 9:30:48 AM
First, I'd like to thank the Academy for reading my blog. Second, I'd like to thank my wonderful fans who took the time to comment on my blog. Without you I wouldn't be here today! I got some excellent advice... And the winner goes to "secretly analyze behind closed doors" (for me this is probably the safest and I should look into starting this practice!) I was also given another view point... My special thanks goes out to that person for providing me another "side" of the situation. He suggested that some people may just feel like they need to have long detailed explanations.This could come from their childhood and having parents who interrogated them. It could be the way I pose the questions that make him feel defensive. I find myself making long detailed explanations at times as well. Like a simple question... "Why didn't you call me last night?" ME: "Um.. well... I was going to but I was busy, then I went to bed and read for a while and then I must have fallen asleep" BETTER: "I just didn't feel like it" . Or "I forgot" Why do some of us feel compelled to explain everything to such great detail? Why do we let others make us feel like we have to explain everything in great detail? So when I analyze my friend and he gets all defensive it might not be my question, or him trying to hide something. He could actually be having a flashback.... You remember them, right? Standing in front of mom trying to explain why you did what you did and trying to make it sound believable. Yeah, those flashbacks... So now thanks to the new insight I can stop (well maybe) analyzing my friend so much! Just wanted to say, even though the thunder and lightning storms that passed through my area today, knocked the power out at my house THANK YOU GOD for the rain. We needed it badly. This is the first rain my area of Florida has seen rain since the beginning of February. Now maybe my grass will turn GREEN instead of that nasty brown color!
posted 5/9/2006 9:30:48 AM
First, I'd like to thank the Academy for reading my blog. Second, I'd like to thank my wonderful fans who took the time to comment on my blog. Without you I wouldn't be here today! I got some excellent advice... And the winner goes to "secretly analyze behind closed doors" (for me this is probably the safest and I should look into starting this practice!) I was also given another view point... My special thanks goes out to that person for providing me another "side" of the situation. He suggested that some people may just feel like they need to have long detailed explanations.This could come from their childhood and having parents who interrogated them. It could be the way I pose the questions that make him feel defensive. I find myself making long detailed explanations at times as well. Like a simple question... "Why didn't you call me last night?" ME: "Um.. well... I was going to but I was busy, then I went to bed and read for a while and then I must have fallen asleep" BETTER: "I just didn't feel like it" . Or "I forgot" Why do some of us feel compelled to explain everything to such great detail? Why do we let others make us feel like we have to explain everything in great detail? So when I analyze my friend and he gets all defensive it might not be my question, or him trying to hide something. He could actually be having a flashback.... You remember them, right? Standing in front of mom trying to explain why you did what you did and trying to make it sound believable. Yeah, those flashbacks... So now thanks to the new insight I can stop (well maybe) analyzing my friend so much! Just wanted to say, even though the thunder and lightning storms that passed through my area today, knocked the power out at my house THANK YOU GOD for the rain. We needed it badly. This is the first rain my area of Florida has seen rain since the beginning of February. Now maybe my grass will turn GREEN instead of that nasty brown color!
Inner Peace
(copied from MD)
posted 5/10/2006 8:59:58 PM
So since my not so nice weekend when things didn't really go as they were planned and my ex husband came to cheer me up, I have been making some major changes in my life.... Oh maybe I should have told you to sit down first before I shocked you with that bit of info. The past 2 weeks now I have been packing up my house, bit by bit, getting ready to vacate the premises for the disposal of my home. Oh, wait, it's more like this I have been spending major time with my daughter, which has been very nice. We've been cooking together, eating together and then heading to the local park for a walk. It's been wonderful getting out and getting exercise and having time to talk without the phone or the TV. And.... to be honest other people that I know. I know that sounds mean but the past 2 weeks I have only gone out with friends 3 times. Maybe that seems like a lot but when it used to be 5 or 6 times a week, 3 times in 2 weeks seems like nothing. I realized tonight when we were on our walk it's been very nice not having anyone around.... Girlfriends or guy friends... I haven't lost site of my packing schedule. I haven't lost site of my goal of spending time with my daughter. And I haven't lost site of my goal of walking every night (at least weeknight). If I went back to spending all that time with my friends then none of these things would be happening in my life. I know that I have hurt one of my friends’ feelings because I haven't wanted to hang out with him. But to be honest I think it's time for me to get back to worrying about my daughter and me and take care of my life and to not put so much emphasis on my social life. Let's face it when you worry about that sort of thing it gets ya no where fast. Not that I have really been worrying about it because I decided a long time ago to not stress about it. I find that I am much happier being single. When I say that people look at me like I am crazy. But it's true. I haven't met a man yet that can understand me! Lol Besides after being alone for any length of time a person gets used to doing things the way they want to, when they want to and not having to think about the other person's feelings or wants. It's all about ME ME ME!!!! (Well my daughter too but you understand what I mean) In the last few months I have met a few men from this site and most of them say the same thing.... They want a woman to move in with them ... some of them seem to be looking for a maid with the sex anytime they want thing... sorry Charlie I am buying my own house and I am staying put for a very long time.... And nope not inviting you to move in with me. WHY? Because I like it like that. It’s MINE MINE MINE! I think that once you get to the inner peace point of your life you no longer feel you have to keep up with everyone else and have the significant other to prove something. If you are truly happy with yourself you have the best gift anyone could give you anyway. So why mess it up?
Doing nice things
(copied from MD)
posted 5/18/2006 11:14:16 AM
I have a friend who uses a prepaid cell phone. The minutes were about to run out and because of financial difficulties ( OUCH!!! I hate those!!!!) wasn't going to be able to purchase more until next week. I had to go to the store for a few items so I picked up a prepaid card for him. He was appreciative but also seemed a little upset. I can understand feeling this way because now there's the dilemma of does he pay me back, does he do something nice for me or does he just accept it as a gift and be thankful and move on? I honest do not expect anything back from him. He's a friend why should I? Maybe some day he can repay the favor by doing something for me, but if not I really don't care. I love doing nice things for people, just because I can. But I know people that do nice things for others always with the expectation that they will get something back in return. I don't think we should look at it that way. I figure someday down the road I am going to need something and someone will help me (hopefully) ya know that karma thing. Anyway just wanted to see if anyone else had feelings on why it's hard for some people to accept help or gifts without feeling guilty or like they have to pay that person back. One more thought...... It's almost Friday!!
posted 5/18/2006 11:14:16 AM
I have a friend who uses a prepaid cell phone. The minutes were about to run out and because of financial difficulties ( OUCH!!! I hate those!!!!) wasn't going to be able to purchase more until next week. I had to go to the store for a few items so I picked up a prepaid card for him. He was appreciative but also seemed a little upset. I can understand feeling this way because now there's the dilemma of does he pay me back, does he do something nice for me or does he just accept it as a gift and be thankful and move on? I honest do not expect anything back from him. He's a friend why should I? Maybe some day he can repay the favor by doing something for me, but if not I really don't care. I love doing nice things for people, just because I can. But I know people that do nice things for others always with the expectation that they will get something back in return. I don't think we should look at it that way. I figure someday down the road I am going to need something and someone will help me (hopefully) ya know that karma thing. Anyway just wanted to see if anyone else had feelings on why it's hard for some people to accept help or gifts without feeling guilty or like they have to pay that person back. One more thought...... It's almost Friday!!
Boogity, Boogity, Boogity ....
(copied from MD)
posted 7/2/2006 12:23:36 PM
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LET'S GO RACING BOYS!!!!!! My Saturday started out at 4am, showered, dressed, out the door by 4:30. Arrived at my best friend’s house. Her husband and I loaded up the truck and were on the road by 5am... heading to Daytona. Arrived at Daytona at 7:30am - we made excellent time. Pulled into the Cracker Barrel right in front of the speedway and had breakfast. Met up with some friends of Greg's and spent a while hanging out at their motor home. Then we headed to the FAN ZONE to purchase shirts and hats and just experience the racing frenzy of fans everywhere. The crowd was highly populated with red and white shirts with Dale Jr's familiar face on them (me included) and a large number of orange Home Depot shirts of Tony Stewart (who won the race- not my choice but as long as it wasn't Jimmy Johnson or Jeff Gordon, I was HAPPY! LOL) As we walked around buying shirts and hats and just enjoying the extremely humid, sunny, hot, hot day in Florida, I wondered what we looked like from up in the sky. Hundreds, even thousands of people milling around experiencing nascar Racing in person. We probably looked like ants as all the plans flew overhead to land at the airport. The afternoon was spent hanging out at the motor home, drinking beer and telling stories. The day would be a long day but everyone's spirits were high. Dale Jr. winning the Busch Race Friday night... might have had something to do with that! The nice thing about being in Daytona, we were going to be able to see the space shuttle launch... unfortunately as you all know that was canceled. But we were able to see Vice President Dick Cheney fly in for the race, which was an experience too. He even gave a speech.. No offense Mr. Vice President, but I really only drove all that way to see the race not you! Around 6:30 p.m. we headed to the track. Lining up behind hundreds of other people to ride the tram from turn 1 to turn 2. Oh we could have walked it... but we figured the massive amount of walking prior to this was enough for the moment! Lol And we were Thanking God we rode over when we found out we had to walk up a huge amount of stairs to get to our seats. What an amazing view, what an amazing experience. Way better then my couch! Lol The noise level is unbelievable but seeing those cars flying past at almost 200 miles an hour is something you just can't get from home. Of course as with most things a little rain must fall... nope we didn't get physical rain but the obnoxious drunks around us were about ready to be catapulted onto the track... kind of like the beer cans and coolers a few idiots threw on to the track... why would you do something that stupid? Obnoxious drunk number one didn't have too much to say after Gordon's little incident knocked him out of potentially winning. One down one more to get rid of.... Obnoxious drunk number two took great pride in telling everyone that he had over $200 bet on Vickers to win... oh was he happy when he saw him running first. But as soon as that little streak was over he was all upset and swearing and yelling and became belligerent and the little misses had to take him home. Bye Bye! OK, question... you spent all that money to get the tickets, travel to get to the race, money for food, drinks (just to give you an idea, a small bag of peanuts - $2 Bud Light in a can - $5, Cup of Pepsi - $4). Granted you are allowed your own coolers so that helps with the cost. BUT WHY would you ruin the day by DRINKING ALL DAY LONG so when the race starts you can't even think or see straight? Yeah you might think you are having a great time but the people around you who have to put up with your sorry butt aren't! I guess maybe if you've been to a race before it's not a big deal? Me on the other hand, wanted to experience every possible moment of it and be able to remember it without the help of alcohol beverages. Anyway.. Through all of this, the day starting at 4am and didn't end until 6am this morning when I crawled into my bed for 4 glorious hours of sleep it was an experience that I will NEVER forget and one I'd like to repeat over and over again. Lol Hope you are all enjoying your 4th of July weekend!
posted 7/2/2006 12:23:36 PM
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LET'S GO RACING BOYS!!!!!! My Saturday started out at 4am, showered, dressed, out the door by 4:30. Arrived at my best friend’s house. Her husband and I loaded up the truck and were on the road by 5am... heading to Daytona. Arrived at Daytona at 7:30am - we made excellent time. Pulled into the Cracker Barrel right in front of the speedway and had breakfast. Met up with some friends of Greg's and spent a while hanging out at their motor home. Then we headed to the FAN ZONE to purchase shirts and hats and just experience the racing frenzy of fans everywhere. The crowd was highly populated with red and white shirts with Dale Jr's familiar face on them (me included) and a large number of orange Home Depot shirts of Tony Stewart (who won the race- not my choice but as long as it wasn't Jimmy Johnson or Jeff Gordon, I was HAPPY! LOL) As we walked around buying shirts and hats and just enjoying the extremely humid, sunny, hot, hot day in Florida, I wondered what we looked like from up in the sky. Hundreds, even thousands of people milling around experiencing nascar Racing in person. We probably looked like ants as all the plans flew overhead to land at the airport. The afternoon was spent hanging out at the motor home, drinking beer and telling stories. The day would be a long day but everyone's spirits were high. Dale Jr. winning the Busch Race Friday night... might have had something to do with that! The nice thing about being in Daytona, we were going to be able to see the space shuttle launch... unfortunately as you all know that was canceled. But we were able to see Vice President Dick Cheney fly in for the race, which was an experience too. He even gave a speech.. No offense Mr. Vice President, but I really only drove all that way to see the race not you! Around 6:30 p.m. we headed to the track. Lining up behind hundreds of other people to ride the tram from turn 1 to turn 2. Oh we could have walked it... but we figured the massive amount of walking prior to this was enough for the moment! Lol And we were Thanking God we rode over when we found out we had to walk up a huge amount of stairs to get to our seats. What an amazing view, what an amazing experience. Way better then my couch! Lol The noise level is unbelievable but seeing those cars flying past at almost 200 miles an hour is something you just can't get from home. Of course as with most things a little rain must fall... nope we didn't get physical rain but the obnoxious drunks around us were about ready to be catapulted onto the track... kind of like the beer cans and coolers a few idiots threw on to the track... why would you do something that stupid? Obnoxious drunk number one didn't have too much to say after Gordon's little incident knocked him out of potentially winning. One down one more to get rid of.... Obnoxious drunk number two took great pride in telling everyone that he had over $200 bet on Vickers to win... oh was he happy when he saw him running first. But as soon as that little streak was over he was all upset and swearing and yelling and became belligerent and the little misses had to take him home. Bye Bye! OK, question... you spent all that money to get the tickets, travel to get to the race, money for food, drinks (just to give you an idea, a small bag of peanuts - $2 Bud Light in a can - $5, Cup of Pepsi - $4). Granted you are allowed your own coolers so that helps with the cost. BUT WHY would you ruin the day by DRINKING ALL DAY LONG so when the race starts you can't even think or see straight? Yeah you might think you are having a great time but the people around you who have to put up with your sorry butt aren't! I guess maybe if you've been to a race before it's not a big deal? Me on the other hand, wanted to experience every possible moment of it and be able to remember it without the help of alcohol beverages. Anyway.. Through all of this, the day starting at 4am and didn't end until 6am this morning when I crawled into my bed for 4 glorious hours of sleep it was an experience that I will NEVER forget and one I'd like to repeat over and over again. Lol Hope you are all enjoying your 4th of July weekend!
My weekend...
(copied from MD)
posted 8/9/2006 8:10:41 AM
finally write the blog I have been putting off for the past few days. Ready? Well... some of you already know that my weekend wasn't a very good one. It started on Friday morning when I took my daughter to the dr for a check up before school. What the dr told her about exercise and eating right just totally put the kid into a negative mood. (It wasn't anything she hadn't heard before from her parents but it didn't go over very well) We then headed to the store. My daughter was looking forward to purchasing a few items with the money she had earned from feeding the neighbors cat while they were on vacation and from doing chores around our house. Now... as I mentioned before if she whines in a store she gets nothing... even if it's her money. Is this wrong of me? I don't think so. After all she is 12 if she can't behave then why should she get what she wants? Well... she didn't really whine but when she came to me and asked if she could have something that cost $30 that wasn't something she was going to use more then once and I said "No" the attitude OMG was totally mind blowing. (This should have been my second clue that the weekend was off to a horrible start... right?) Well I gave the benefit of the doubt... (That will teach me! LOL) She got over the fit and purchased a few craft things instead of the $30 X-box game that wasn't something I wanted her playing to begin with. Get home... time to cut the grass. This, yes you guessed it, did not go over well with the "Princess". So I made a deal (never again!!!!!! ha) I would cut the grass, both front and back yards if she washed my car... WELL!!!!! Needless to say, the grass got cut and the car got a quick swipe with a rag. When I told her she had to rewash it she stormed into the house and started slamming doors and telling me "I'm not washing it again, if you don't like it do it yourself." Ok, I can deal with that. Away went the "new school shoes" the ones we just HAD TO HAVE!!!! Now that just caused another fit... Come on kid... you're 12 not 3. Got through that crisis and survived the rest of the day. Whew... breathing... nice... calm... quiet... ah beautiful peace. Saturday... I made the horrible mistake of telling her to clean her room. OMG WHAT? How dare I tell her that? She began, I kid you not, to scream, yell, throw things, tried to hit me and then began this possessed type behavior of rocking back and forth saying I was trying to kill her... (A swat on the butt isn’t a life threatening blow sweetheart)Well hon, I did bring you into the world and I could take you out very easily... but I don't want to spend the rest of my life in jail so that ain't gonna happen. But ya keep it up and we might be looking at the possibility! After 30 minutes of this type of behavior and me trying to get her to shut up long enough to breathe before she hyperventilated she finally stopped balling and got a grip. (This was only after telling her to get in the car we were going to the hospital to see what her problem was )Later after her room was cleaned, (see mom always wins!) the house was picked up and she was calmed down. I asked her what brought on that nasty behavior... her answer."You took away my shoes and I thought if I behaved like that you'd give them back so I'd stop" Oh dear child, do you not know who I am? I am the mom, the parent, the person in charge of your butt... I will not, do not, can not be bought, bribed or conned into giving in to your fit throwing tantrums no matter how much you scare me with your "possessed" behavior. It just doesn't work that way. You are a gift from God. God gave me the responsibility to raise you and make you into a wonderful adult. I just wish you'd realize it would be a lot easier if you'd just listen to me... the first time I tell you to do something! I won't even touch on what happened on Sunday... I think that is enough for now.! Let's just say I was very happy when Monday rolled around. I couldn't wait to get to work ... just so I could relax!
Stop and smell the roses.
(copied from MD)
posted 8/14/2006 10:08:12 AM
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I was having a conversation with someone from MD yesterday.. he asked me what my goals are, my deep down desire. I gave the typical.. own house, good job, find my true love, live happily ever after .. probably the same as most people...But how do you tell someone you barely know what your deep down desires are? How do you explain that you want your daughter to grow up healthy and happy and never have to battle cancer like her mom or her grandmother, or her cousin.. or to battle MS like her Aunt.. To not have to fight the desire for alcohol. To never suffer through a divorce. How do you tell someone those things without making it seem like you want the attention or the sympathy? Or that you're crazy for having thoughts like that? I'm sure most people have those kinds of wants for their kids. And if you've lived through any of those things you know that you want them to be spared of that hurt, heartache, fear. But on the other hand you pray that you did a good job... gave them the tools to be strong to fight and to stand tall knowing that they did their best no matter what life threw at them. I know that I can't prevent these things and others from happening.. but I really wish I could. It makes you really appreciate the life you have and the moments you have with one another... Life is no where near long enough... cherish each moment of yours.
posted 8/14/2006 10:08:12 AM
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I was having a conversation with someone from MD yesterday.. he asked me what my goals are, my deep down desire. I gave the typical.. own house, good job, find my true love, live happily ever after .. probably the same as most people...But how do you tell someone you barely know what your deep down desires are? How do you explain that you want your daughter to grow up healthy and happy and never have to battle cancer like her mom or her grandmother, or her cousin.. or to battle MS like her Aunt.. To not have to fight the desire for alcohol. To never suffer through a divorce. How do you tell someone those things without making it seem like you want the attention or the sympathy? Or that you're crazy for having thoughts like that? I'm sure most people have those kinds of wants for their kids. And if you've lived through any of those things you know that you want them to be spared of that hurt, heartache, fear. But on the other hand you pray that you did a good job... gave them the tools to be strong to fight and to stand tall knowing that they did their best no matter what life threw at them. I know that I can't prevent these things and others from happening.. but I really wish I could. It makes you really appreciate the life you have and the moments you have with one another... Life is no where near long enough... cherish each moment of yours.
A shock to my heart..
(copied from MD)
posted 8/15/2006 7:38:26 PM
So I'm about to do the one thing you shouldn't do on a dating site... the unpardonable sin so to speak of dating etiquette.. I am about to bare my soul.... to share my "feelings" about something that happened today. If there are any men reading this .... and you are interested in me.. ya might want to STOP reading NOW before you see me at a bad place in my life! Today... I found out that my ex-boyfriend... is seeing someone. I know that since we have called things off in a romantic way and have just been friends I shouldn't have let this bother me... I know you're thinking "She's not over him YET????" I truly thought I wasn't... because when I saw that he had updated his profile it was like a knife being pushed through my heart... thinking he found someone and it wasn't me really hurt like hell..... and I lashed out and said some things to him that I may regret.... hell I do regret... (don't tell my mom I'm swearing like a sailor.. she'd be upset! ... but sometimes it's necessary!!!!!) BUT to defend myself..... I think that it would have been nice of him to tell me to my face that he has found happiness. After all we are friends... I thought so anyway. Maybe I was wrong on that too?No, I don't think I am wrong on that.. he is actually a much better friend to me then boyfriend and that's probably why it wouldn't have worked between us anyway... Well there's other reasons but I am not going to air that dirty laundry on here it's definately not right. Anyway.. so I lashed out... cried... sought comfort from a few awesome friends.. who by now are thinking GOOD GRIEF let him go already... But instead of saying this to me they told me that I would be ok... that I just had to deal with my feelings. And they are right... I got myself together... dried the tears and went to answer the phone... Oh Lovely... it's my ex-husband... he asked me how I was... OH NO wrong question... the tears started flowing... I started blubbering like an idiot ... and he offered kind words... and great advice... "F*ck him... if he doesn't know what a wonderful woman you are he didn't deserve you anyway..." (hm... I wonder if he feels that way about him tossing me aside as well??? ) After that comment I realized..... First.. not all men are idiots... second my ex husband always seems to be there when I need a friend (he wasn't when we were married- funny how people change) and has never judged my decisions or questioned why I loved someone who obviously didn't love me back... maybe because he was in the same boat not too long ago... So after some deep soul searching... I have decided that I am over my ex-boyfriend. I think the shock of not being told in person and the jealousy (yes I think I am jealous- I admitted it now stop naggin! lol) just really over took my senses for a moment or two... but I am fine now and I can honestly say I wish him all the best and MGS if you read this... I am sorry for the horrible things I said to you and I do want you to be happy..... I hope you will forgive me and accept my friendship. And to anyone else reading this... I know this isn't the type of blog I'd normally write because it does bare my soul and my short comings... and a few other things... but it can also show you I love with my whole heart, forgive easily and cherish friendships forever.
posted 8/15/2006 7:38:26 PM
So I'm about to do the one thing you shouldn't do on a dating site... the unpardonable sin so to speak of dating etiquette.. I am about to bare my soul.... to share my "feelings" about something that happened today. If there are any men reading this .... and you are interested in me.. ya might want to STOP reading NOW before you see me at a bad place in my life! Today... I found out that my ex-boyfriend... is seeing someone. I know that since we have called things off in a romantic way and have just been friends I shouldn't have let this bother me... I know you're thinking "She's not over him YET????" I truly thought I wasn't... because when I saw that he had updated his profile it was like a knife being pushed through my heart... thinking he found someone and it wasn't me really hurt like hell..... and I lashed out and said some things to him that I may regret.... hell I do regret... (don't tell my mom I'm swearing like a sailor.. she'd be upset! ... but sometimes it's necessary!!!!!) BUT to defend myself..... I think that it would have been nice of him to tell me to my face that he has found happiness. After all we are friends... I thought so anyway. Maybe I was wrong on that too?No, I don't think I am wrong on that.. he is actually a much better friend to me then boyfriend and that's probably why it wouldn't have worked between us anyway... Well there's other reasons but I am not going to air that dirty laundry on here it's definately not right. Anyway.. so I lashed out... cried... sought comfort from a few awesome friends.. who by now are thinking GOOD GRIEF let him go already... But instead of saying this to me they told me that I would be ok... that I just had to deal with my feelings. And they are right... I got myself together... dried the tears and went to answer the phone... Oh Lovely... it's my ex-husband... he asked me how I was... OH NO wrong question... the tears started flowing... I started blubbering like an idiot ... and he offered kind words... and great advice... "F*ck him... if he doesn't know what a wonderful woman you are he didn't deserve you anyway..." (hm... I wonder if he feels that way about him tossing me aside as well??? ) After that comment I realized..... First.. not all men are idiots... second my ex husband always seems to be there when I need a friend (he wasn't when we were married- funny how people change) and has never judged my decisions or questioned why I loved someone who obviously didn't love me back... maybe because he was in the same boat not too long ago... So after some deep soul searching... I have decided that I am over my ex-boyfriend. I think the shock of not being told in person and the jealousy (yes I think I am jealous- I admitted it now stop naggin! lol) just really over took my senses for a moment or two... but I am fine now and I can honestly say I wish him all the best and MGS if you read this... I am sorry for the horrible things I said to you and I do want you to be happy..... I hope you will forgive me and accept my friendship. And to anyone else reading this... I know this isn't the type of blog I'd normally write because it does bare my soul and my short comings... and a few other things... but it can also show you I love with my whole heart, forgive easily and cherish friendships forever.
(copied from MD)
posted 11/4/2006 8:07:02 PM
Have you ever had someone say something to you that causes you to go back in time and think about things that you haven't thought about in years??? Tonight I was talking to one of my friends and something was said that totally threw me off guard... and the next thing I know I am rehashing crap that I had dealt with and put away years ago...It's funny how something can be said that really has nothing to do with anything important but it triggers something in your brain to remember things from the past and all of a sudden there they are WHAM right in front of you...Now I just have to figure out why these thoughts came flooding back in... and what I am going to do about them now that they are here... I know very confusing blog for you to read.. I understand it though... It's kind of a de ja vu thing.... being "tranformed" back in time and "reliving" certain actions all over again... sometimes life would be much simpler if we could do that wouldn't it? Then maybe instead of trying to deal with feelings and thoughts and putting them away with the rest of the baggage.. we'd be able to redo things the right way and have a lot less baggage to carry through life... I have never claimed to not have baggage because let's face it.. what's the point? We all have it... been married and divorced... you have BAGGAGE... have kids... you have BAGGAGE.. there's different kinds of "baggage" but it's still baggage... I've always said it's how you deal with the baggage that matters... not that you have baggage... so I guess I better take my own advice and deal with this new ... or maybe old piece of baggage and tuck it away... hopefully this time forever.
posted 11/4/2006 8:07:02 PM
Have you ever had someone say something to you that causes you to go back in time and think about things that you haven't thought about in years??? Tonight I was talking to one of my friends and something was said that totally threw me off guard... and the next thing I know I am rehashing crap that I had dealt with and put away years ago...It's funny how something can be said that really has nothing to do with anything important but it triggers something in your brain to remember things from the past and all of a sudden there they are WHAM right in front of you...Now I just have to figure out why these thoughts came flooding back in... and what I am going to do about them now that they are here... I know very confusing blog for you to read.. I understand it though... It's kind of a de ja vu thing.... being "tranformed" back in time and "reliving" certain actions all over again... sometimes life would be much simpler if we could do that wouldn't it? Then maybe instead of trying to deal with feelings and thoughts and putting them away with the rest of the baggage.. we'd be able to redo things the right way and have a lot less baggage to carry through life... I have never claimed to not have baggage because let's face it.. what's the point? We all have it... been married and divorced... you have BAGGAGE... have kids... you have BAGGAGE.. there's different kinds of "baggage" but it's still baggage... I've always said it's how you deal with the baggage that matters... not that you have baggage... so I guess I better take my own advice and deal with this new ... or maybe old piece of baggage and tuck it away... hopefully this time forever.
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
One Nighters...
(copied from MD)
posted 8/23/2006 7:31:18 PM
So I promised a self written blog... don't blame me if it's not as good as it could be. I've been having a little problem with my thoughts scattering every which way but together... I'm thinking my new highlights soaked into my brain and now I truly am a blonde instead of just periodically thinking like one! The past week or so it seems I've had the same conversation with people... mainly men, because, well let's face it, it's something men think about.... A LOT! Most women think about it a great deal too but we just don't advertise it like men do... When I first started blogging I wrote several blogs about a similar subject, friends with benefits... But since that was so long ago, I didn't think you'd mind if I revisited the topic again. If you do then move on to the next blog cause I don't want to hear your complaints. I'm sure you can find a blogger who brags about his endowments and one who feels he's holier then everyone. But me.. I just blog because I can't afford a damn therapist. One of my friends has been trying to convince me I need to loosen up and go out and have a few one nighters instead of concentrating on finding the one or a long term relationship. He feels that I am missing my opportunity at just enjoying life and kicking up my heels and having fun.I've tried to explain to him that it's just not for me. But he keeps pressing the issue. He seems to think I am not being open to new experiences or living outside the box.. Here's my feeling on the subject of one nighters and me... I am not virgin in the one nighter department ok? Been there... experienced it(some weren't planned ya know? people LIE )... it worked for a while.. now it's not me. Obviously my friend doesn't think I've experienced it enough. He'll just have to deal with it. And realize it's my BODY and my LIFE to do with what I see fit. . What he's not taking into consideration... because he's married he doesn't have this problem... going home alone night after night gets old. But going home night after night with a different man just plan drops a persons self esteem in the crapper and causes so many issues they have to blog about them on a dating site! I don't see a one nighter sticking around to fix the sink when it leaks or change the oil in my car. Nope... I'm at home doing those things myself so what would be the advantage of one nighters again? Where's the one nighter going to be when I discover I "caught" something? Yea that's what I thought... NO WHERE TO BE FOUND. And I'd want to be involved in that life style ... why again? fun? living life to the fullest? Seriously.. if a person knows what they want out of life why waste my time trying to convince me to think differently? Yea being single sucks... going home to an empty house without someone to share my day with sucks.. not having someone to hold me when I have had a bad day sucks.... but one nighters wouldn't give me any of that anyway so why can't I just sit and wait for the right one to come along? If I don't have a problem with my life why should you? I'd have to say jealousy... We all make decisions in our lives that we have to live by. My decision to stop dating and stop the insanity of one nighters is my decision and a good one... FOR ME!!!! It really has nothing to do with you or what you think I should be doing. Thank you very much! Whew... I feel so much better having shared that. lol
posted 8/23/2006 7:31:18 PM
So I promised a self written blog... don't blame me if it's not as good as it could be. I've been having a little problem with my thoughts scattering every which way but together... I'm thinking my new highlights soaked into my brain and now I truly am a blonde instead of just periodically thinking like one! The past week or so it seems I've had the same conversation with people... mainly men, because, well let's face it, it's something men think about.... A LOT! Most women think about it a great deal too but we just don't advertise it like men do... When I first started blogging I wrote several blogs about a similar subject, friends with benefits... But since that was so long ago, I didn't think you'd mind if I revisited the topic again. If you do then move on to the next blog cause I don't want to hear your complaints. I'm sure you can find a blogger who brags about his endowments and one who feels he's holier then everyone. But me.. I just blog because I can't afford a damn therapist. One of my friends has been trying to convince me I need to loosen up and go out and have a few one nighters instead of concentrating on finding the one or a long term relationship. He feels that I am missing my opportunity at just enjoying life and kicking up my heels and having fun.I've tried to explain to him that it's just not for me. But he keeps pressing the issue. He seems to think I am not being open to new experiences or living outside the box.. Here's my feeling on the subject of one nighters and me... I am not virgin in the one nighter department ok? Been there... experienced it(some weren't planned ya know? people LIE )... it worked for a while.. now it's not me. Obviously my friend doesn't think I've experienced it enough. He'll just have to deal with it. And realize it's my BODY and my LIFE to do with what I see fit. . What he's not taking into consideration... because he's married he doesn't have this problem... going home alone night after night gets old. But going home night after night with a different man just plan drops a persons self esteem in the crapper and causes so many issues they have to blog about them on a dating site! I don't see a one nighter sticking around to fix the sink when it leaks or change the oil in my car. Nope... I'm at home doing those things myself so what would be the advantage of one nighters again? Where's the one nighter going to be when I discover I "caught" something? Yea that's what I thought... NO WHERE TO BE FOUND. And I'd want to be involved in that life style ... why again? fun? living life to the fullest? Seriously.. if a person knows what they want out of life why waste my time trying to convince me to think differently? Yea being single sucks... going home to an empty house without someone to share my day with sucks.. not having someone to hold me when I have had a bad day sucks.... but one nighters wouldn't give me any of that anyway so why can't I just sit and wait for the right one to come along? If I don't have a problem with my life why should you? I'd have to say jealousy... We all make decisions in our lives that we have to live by. My decision to stop dating and stop the insanity of one nighters is my decision and a good one... FOR ME!!!! It really has nothing to do with you or what you think I should be doing. Thank you very much! Whew... I feel so much better having shared that. lol
Are you Christian enough?
(copied from MD)
posted 8/24/2006 11:32:23 AM
Thank you to those who commented on last night’s blog. It's nice to know I am not the only one who has that view point on one nighters... I guess I will never understand why some people feel they must shove their views and opinions on others. Or why some feel they are better then everyone else. Like the self appointed Judge among our fellow bloggers... Last time I checked we were all created equal. God loves each of us the same. Yes!!! Even you who sit and criticize everyone from their life style to their dress to their hair length. He loves everyone... from the housewife, to the prostitute standing on the street corner, to The President of the United States. Criticizing someone else about how they live their life or how they dress or wear their hair isn't your job. God didn't appoint you to handle that. Oh wait, maybe I am wrong about that... did a new version of the Bible come out with different instructions? It's human nature to criticize, judge, gossip. Most of us do it at one time or another. But to make a daily practice out of it just isn't wise. I bet you are probably wondering why I say that? Well.... one day it will come back and bite you in the a$$. And then you'll be begging for someone to help you. You know the people you criticized and judged? Yea them! You'll be hoping we're Christian enough to forgive you and lend you support when it does.
posted 8/24/2006 11:32:23 AM
Thank you to those who commented on last night’s blog. It's nice to know I am not the only one who has that view point on one nighters... I guess I will never understand why some people feel they must shove their views and opinions on others. Or why some feel they are better then everyone else. Like the self appointed Judge among our fellow bloggers... Last time I checked we were all created equal. God loves each of us the same. Yes!!! Even you who sit and criticize everyone from their life style to their dress to their hair length. He loves everyone... from the housewife, to the prostitute standing on the street corner, to The President of the United States. Criticizing someone else about how they live their life or how they dress or wear their hair isn't your job. God didn't appoint you to handle that. Oh wait, maybe I am wrong about that... did a new version of the Bible come out with different instructions? It's human nature to criticize, judge, gossip. Most of us do it at one time or another. But to make a daily practice out of it just isn't wise. I bet you are probably wondering why I say that? Well.... one day it will come back and bite you in the a$$. And then you'll be begging for someone to help you. You know the people you criticized and judged? Yea them! You'll be hoping we're Christian enough to forgive you and lend you support when it does.
Age Difference
(copied from MD)
posted 8/29/2006 8:15:44 AM
I find the debate about age differences to be interesting and somewhat entertaining. It's amazing how many people; especially men get upset over a woman not wanting to date them if they don't fall within their age limit. I see men who say I'm 55 but look and feel like I'm 30. Good for you. We applaud you!!!!! But that doesn't mean that your body is running like a 30 year old. Yes I realize that most people feel the age limit is petty and unfair. But there's a couple of things most of you might not be taking into consideration. Not only does age difference cause an issue with having things in common but it can also cause physical limitations. Maybe not in the beginning but further down the road ... Example of not having things in common... Most of the older men that contact me are close to being retired... they want to travel and explore the world. GREAT... I have a 12 year old to raise and a job to work. I just can't pack up my house and leave... it's not something I can do right now. And believe it or not some men have actually gotten upset by this... Seriously... why are you surprised by this kind of answer coming from someone in their 30's? My profile doesn't state I won the lottery and sit around watching Soap Operas and eating Bon Bons all day! Example of age difference... One of my best friends is in her mid 40's her husband is in his 70's he had a heart attack about 5 years ago and since that time has not been able to be intimate with his wife. Now... he still looks great for his age. Very nice looking man... very kind and caring but this doesn't help in the intimate department... does it? Getting older is a fact of life... body parts stop working... it's a fact of life... but for those of us still in our 30's we would like to enjoy what years we have left with someone near our age so then maybe the body parts will stop working at the same time and a loss of intimacy might not be that big of a loss... Just a suggestion to those who get offended by being turned down because of the age difference... read profiles more closely and respect the persons decision of age limits, etc. those things are there for a reason... But please don't take them as a personal attack on you. Now with that being said... let me wish you all a Fantastic Tuesday and close with the Joke of the Day! ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------The Worlds Shortest Fairy Tale Once upon a time, a girl asked a guy, "Will you marry me?" The guy said "No"! The girl lived happily ever after. She went shopping, drank martinis, always had a clean house, never had to cook, stayed skinny, and was never farted on.The End.
posted 8/29/2006 8:15:44 AM
I find the debate about age differences to be interesting and somewhat entertaining. It's amazing how many people; especially men get upset over a woman not wanting to date them if they don't fall within their age limit. I see men who say I'm 55 but look and feel like I'm 30. Good for you. We applaud you!!!!! But that doesn't mean that your body is running like a 30 year old. Yes I realize that most people feel the age limit is petty and unfair. But there's a couple of things most of you might not be taking into consideration. Not only does age difference cause an issue with having things in common but it can also cause physical limitations. Maybe not in the beginning but further down the road ... Example of not having things in common... Most of the older men that contact me are close to being retired... they want to travel and explore the world. GREAT... I have a 12 year old to raise and a job to work. I just can't pack up my house and leave... it's not something I can do right now. And believe it or not some men have actually gotten upset by this... Seriously... why are you surprised by this kind of answer coming from someone in their 30's? My profile doesn't state I won the lottery and sit around watching Soap Operas and eating Bon Bons all day! Example of age difference... One of my best friends is in her mid 40's her husband is in his 70's he had a heart attack about 5 years ago and since that time has not been able to be intimate with his wife. Now... he still looks great for his age. Very nice looking man... very kind and caring but this doesn't help in the intimate department... does it? Getting older is a fact of life... body parts stop working... it's a fact of life... but for those of us still in our 30's we would like to enjoy what years we have left with someone near our age so then maybe the body parts will stop working at the same time and a loss of intimacy might not be that big of a loss... Just a suggestion to those who get offended by being turned down because of the age difference... read profiles more closely and respect the persons decision of age limits, etc. those things are there for a reason... But please don't take them as a personal attack on you. Now with that being said... let me wish you all a Fantastic Tuesday and close with the Joke of the Day! ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------The Worlds Shortest Fairy Tale Once upon a time, a girl asked a guy, "Will you marry me?" The guy said "No"! The girl lived happily ever after. She went shopping, drank martinis, always had a clean house, never had to cook, stayed skinny, and was never farted on.The End.
Life
(copied from MD)
posted 8/31/2006 9:06:51 AM
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People will never cease to amaze me. I think this might be a good thing. If they stop amazing me then it probably means I am either completely immune or dead. I prefer to stick around for a while... even if I can't understand why people do the things they do. It's been said many times before in many different ways. I am like most people on here I don't like winks. Yes it's a nice way to let me know you're interested but when I receive a wink and then look at the profile most of the time I am baffled as to why you winked in the first place. I am not willing to relocate... most of the men who wink at me aren't either. So please explain to me why you're winking to someone who isn't moving to your area to be with you? I’ve had men wink at me and I look as see they are much shorter then me. (Not my fault I am tall) But I am not comfortable dating someone shorter then me. Yes I know some of you feel this is petty... but it's my prerogative to feel this way. You have you're preferences why can't I have mine? I know I’ve offended some by not answering their winks or their emails... Maybe I should have been polite and responded with a "No Thank You" but every time I do that I get a nasty remark back... and asked WHY I don’t like them... Does there really have to be a reason why someone chooses not to respond? If they don't respond it means for whatever reason they aren't interested. It's funny how some can't accept that, they have to have a reason... Then when they get the reason they get upset… Again this it comes back to ACTUALLY READING AND COMPREHENDING profiles. I am looking for friends only... but some of you out there have this deep desire to try and make me change my mind. Hello? If you're read any of my blogs you'd realize I don't change my mind for anyone but ME and only when I am damn good and ready! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------LIFE IS ALL ABOUT ASS YOU'RE EITHER LAUGHING IT OFF, KICKING IT, KISSING IT, BUSTING IT, TRYING TO GET A PIECE OF IT, BEHAVING LIKE ONE, OR YOU LIVE WITH ONE.Have a great Thursday!!!!
posted 8/31/2006 9:06:51 AM
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People will never cease to amaze me. I think this might be a good thing. If they stop amazing me then it probably means I am either completely immune or dead. I prefer to stick around for a while... even if I can't understand why people do the things they do. It's been said many times before in many different ways. I am like most people on here I don't like winks. Yes it's a nice way to let me know you're interested but when I receive a wink and then look at the profile most of the time I am baffled as to why you winked in the first place. I am not willing to relocate... most of the men who wink at me aren't either. So please explain to me why you're winking to someone who isn't moving to your area to be with you? I’ve had men wink at me and I look as see they are much shorter then me. (Not my fault I am tall) But I am not comfortable dating someone shorter then me. Yes I know some of you feel this is petty... but it's my prerogative to feel this way. You have you're preferences why can't I have mine? I know I’ve offended some by not answering their winks or their emails... Maybe I should have been polite and responded with a "No Thank You" but every time I do that I get a nasty remark back... and asked WHY I don’t like them... Does there really have to be a reason why someone chooses not to respond? If they don't respond it means for whatever reason they aren't interested. It's funny how some can't accept that, they have to have a reason... Then when they get the reason they get upset… Again this it comes back to ACTUALLY READING AND COMPREHENDING profiles. I am looking for friends only... but some of you out there have this deep desire to try and make me change my mind. Hello? If you're read any of my blogs you'd realize I don't change my mind for anyone but ME and only when I am damn good and ready! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------LIFE IS ALL ABOUT ASS YOU'RE EITHER LAUGHING IT OFF, KICKING IT, KISSING IT, BUSTING IT, TRYING TO GET A PIECE OF IT, BEHAVING LIKE ONE, OR YOU LIVE WITH ONE.Have a great Thursday!!!!
Reflecting
(copied from MD)
posted 9/16/2006 2:38:21 PM
Today as I was sitting in line at the car wash, I found myself reflecting on past relationships. Yes, I know that's an odd place and time to be thinking about relationships... but sometimes my brain doesn't stop to realize that there might have been a better time and place to reflect! lol As I was sitting there watching the truck in front of me being sprayed with soap, it occurred to me that most if not all of my past relationships were relationships that caused me more stress and heartache then true happiness... so why did I stay? Why did I feel that they were "THE ONE" the person I HAD TO HAVE in my life???? Have you ever noticed how you think you are happy with a relationship that you probably know deep down inside isn't going to work? But for some reason you cling to it... you try everything you can to make it work... even though you know it's not meant to be? You know the person your with isn't the one for you? For a year I "fought" to make my last relationship work. I realize that I was fighting against myself, the part that knew I should have bailed a long time ago the part that already knew it wasn't working and he wasn't the one for me... but being stubborn and bull-headed I kept trying to put things back together...I've moved on since then... even clinging to the "we are friends" thing isn't important anymore.. that might have to do with him never being there when I truly need a friend... which was always part of the problem anyway.. never there when I needed him... So I found myself wondering why did my past relationships, even my marriage not work? And more importantly what did they have in common??? The answer to that would be type of man.... I think part of the problem... besides lack of communication... was these men brought me more stress and aggrivation then comfort, support and encouragement. With my marriage.. I always felt I couldn't ask him or expect him to do anything other then work and relax while I worked full-time, cleaned, cooked, laundry, and took care of cutting the grass etc. I started to build up a huge "hatred" towards him because he wouldn't cut the grass.. but did I ever ask? NO (did I mention stubborn and bull-headed????) because I felt he should offer to do it because he was the MAN! All the while he thought I was cutting the grass because I enjoyed it! <------- HUGE lack of communication!!!!!!!! In all of my relationships... I was always the one to be there for them when things went wrong in their lives.. I was always the one to be the strong one and support, encourage and comfort... even if it meant sacrificing a part of me to help them. But each time I needed that support, comfort and encouragement... I had to look to my friends for the things I wasn't getting from my "signifigant other" but yet.... I still clung to them like I couldn't live without them. In my reflecting state I came to the understanding that I do not want that kind of relationship anymore. I do not want the man that can not be strong enough to handle my problems as well as his own. I do not want the man that can not be supportive of me or encourage me... I do not want the man that can not call when he says he will or can not follow through on what he promised. I do not want the man that makes me feel like I have to sacrifice myself in order to make him happy. I guess that means I want the man that calls when he says, does what he promises, encourages me, comforts me, supports me and treats me well. Who can be there through good and bad... and never bail because he's scared to love. Who doesn't expect me to give up my happiness in order to make him happy. 24/7 while I silently suffer... When I say I was treated badly in past relationships, I do not mean physically... but I can say that I was never given the "emotional" side of things... when you go so long without that sort of thing it's kind of hard to "re-program" your brain to accept that kind of treatment from someone and not think it's a put on... but I'm getting there... and I'm getting there because I have someone willing to show me that not everyone is selfish or out to get whatever they can for themselves and to heck with the other person.... So usually when you reflect you compare... right? Well if I compare my past to my present I have to say that "Lotion Boy" is most definately a HUGE step in the right direction....It still amazes me when the phone rings when he says he'll call... I know this is something so small and inconsequential to some... but to me is a HUGE deal, and means more to me then I could ever explain.
posted 9/16/2006 2:38:21 PM
Today as I was sitting in line at the car wash, I found myself reflecting on past relationships. Yes, I know that's an odd place and time to be thinking about relationships... but sometimes my brain doesn't stop to realize that there might have been a better time and place to reflect! lol As I was sitting there watching the truck in front of me being sprayed with soap, it occurred to me that most if not all of my past relationships were relationships that caused me more stress and heartache then true happiness... so why did I stay? Why did I feel that they were "THE ONE" the person I HAD TO HAVE in my life???? Have you ever noticed how you think you are happy with a relationship that you probably know deep down inside isn't going to work? But for some reason you cling to it... you try everything you can to make it work... even though you know it's not meant to be? You know the person your with isn't the one for you? For a year I "fought" to make my last relationship work. I realize that I was fighting against myself, the part that knew I should have bailed a long time ago the part that already knew it wasn't working and he wasn't the one for me... but being stubborn and bull-headed I kept trying to put things back together...I've moved on since then... even clinging to the "we are friends" thing isn't important anymore.. that might have to do with him never being there when I truly need a friend... which was always part of the problem anyway.. never there when I needed him... So I found myself wondering why did my past relationships, even my marriage not work? And more importantly what did they have in common??? The answer to that would be type of man.... I think part of the problem... besides lack of communication... was these men brought me more stress and aggrivation then comfort, support and encouragement. With my marriage.. I always felt I couldn't ask him or expect him to do anything other then work and relax while I worked full-time, cleaned, cooked, laundry, and took care of cutting the grass etc. I started to build up a huge "hatred" towards him because he wouldn't cut the grass.. but did I ever ask? NO (did I mention stubborn and bull-headed????) because I felt he should offer to do it because he was the MAN! All the while he thought I was cutting the grass because I enjoyed it! <------- HUGE lack of communication!!!!!!!! In all of my relationships... I was always the one to be there for them when things went wrong in their lives.. I was always the one to be the strong one and support, encourage and comfort... even if it meant sacrificing a part of me to help them. But each time I needed that support, comfort and encouragement... I had to look to my friends for the things I wasn't getting from my "signifigant other" but yet.... I still clung to them like I couldn't live without them. In my reflecting state I came to the understanding that I do not want that kind of relationship anymore. I do not want the man that can not be strong enough to handle my problems as well as his own. I do not want the man that can not be supportive of me or encourage me... I do not want the man that can not call when he says he will or can not follow through on what he promised. I do not want the man that makes me feel like I have to sacrifice myself in order to make him happy. I guess that means I want the man that calls when he says, does what he promises, encourages me, comforts me, supports me and treats me well. Who can be there through good and bad... and never bail because he's scared to love. Who doesn't expect me to give up my happiness in order to make him happy. 24/7 while I silently suffer... When I say I was treated badly in past relationships, I do not mean physically... but I can say that I was never given the "emotional" side of things... when you go so long without that sort of thing it's kind of hard to "re-program" your brain to accept that kind of treatment from someone and not think it's a put on... but I'm getting there... and I'm getting there because I have someone willing to show me that not everyone is selfish or out to get whatever they can for themselves and to heck with the other person.... So usually when you reflect you compare... right? Well if I compare my past to my present I have to say that "Lotion Boy" is most definately a HUGE step in the right direction....It still amazes me when the phone rings when he says he'll call... I know this is something so small and inconsequential to some... but to me is a HUGE deal, and means more to me then I could ever explain.
Deputy Vernon Matthew Williams
(copied from MD)
posted 9/29/2006 7:22:29 AM
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I want to thank Legacy for the concern yesterday after hearing about the situation in Lakeland, FL, a town about 45 minutes away. I appreciate the thoughts and concern! A routine traffic stop, suspect panics because he gave out a false drivers license, runs into the woods, fires on a K-9 Cop and his dog killing both and injuring another officer. This man is still at large. Schools were on lock down until 7 last night. Several closed today. People are urged to stay in their homes with the doors and windows locked while they continue to search for this loser who took two lives. The thing is... they don't even know if he's in the area still... he's been missing for over 19 hours he could be ANYWHERE... and the feeling from most people... that arises in a situation like this... if ya find him there's no need to bring him back alive... ONE man, one losey excuse for a human being has managed to cause so much havoc in thousands of people’s lives but none as much as the wife and children of the officer shot who now have to live without their husband and father. This man was 39 years old... 3 children... and died on his wife's birthday. It's a sad day here in Florida. Whether we are directly affected or not when an officer is shot the whole state grieves... these men and women put their lives on the line to protect the rest of us knowing that they may very well give their life for it... but hope and pray they don't.
posted 9/29/2006 7:22:29 AM
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I want to thank Legacy for the concern yesterday after hearing about the situation in Lakeland, FL, a town about 45 minutes away. I appreciate the thoughts and concern! A routine traffic stop, suspect panics because he gave out a false drivers license, runs into the woods, fires on a K-9 Cop and his dog killing both and injuring another officer. This man is still at large. Schools were on lock down until 7 last night. Several closed today. People are urged to stay in their homes with the doors and windows locked while they continue to search for this loser who took two lives. The thing is... they don't even know if he's in the area still... he's been missing for over 19 hours he could be ANYWHERE... and the feeling from most people... that arises in a situation like this... if ya find him there's no need to bring him back alive... ONE man, one losey excuse for a human being has managed to cause so much havoc in thousands of people’s lives but none as much as the wife and children of the officer shot who now have to live without their husband and father. This man was 39 years old... 3 children... and died on his wife's birthday. It's a sad day here in Florida. Whether we are directly affected or not when an officer is shot the whole state grieves... these men and women put their lives on the line to protect the rest of us knowing that they may very well give their life for it... but hope and pray they don't.
Shrink or no shrink I'm laying on the couch!
(very first blog- copied from MD)
posted 1/12/2006 7:23:07 PM
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I've discovered that regardless of whether or not people read this.. whether or not they agree and whether or not I am any good at this... blogging... it can be very theraputic for the soul, and way cheaper then a shrink! lol oh, please don't pretend ya never went to one we all need to bare our souls from time to time and have someone tell us we aren't completely nuts.. it's the rest of the world.
posted 1/12/2006 7:23:07 PM
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I've discovered that regardless of whether or not people read this.. whether or not they agree and whether or not I am any good at this... blogging... it can be very theraputic for the soul, and way cheaper then a shrink! lol oh, please don't pretend ya never went to one we all need to bare our souls from time to time and have someone tell us we aren't completely nuts.. it's the rest of the world.
Some of my Favorite Holiday Memories.....
(copied from MD_
posted 11/9/2006 11:55:33 AM
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I was listening to the radio this morning and Christmas was mentioned.. and for whatever reason I started thinking about the Holiday's when I was a kid which triggered some very special memories... Sled riding with my brothers and sisters and cousins.... being so cold you thought you were freezing to death but refused to go inside and warm up because it was just too much fun... Making Homemade Ice-cream... mixing everything together and placing the ice-cream maker in a snow bank so it would freeze faster.. YUM Making Homemade Potato Chips - we would gather in the kitchen and have an assembly line going... someone would wash the potato's, someone would slice them, someone would dry them, someone would place them in the deep fryer and then someone would salt them, and then we'd all enjoy them... nothing better then Homemade Potato Chips and chocolate.... lol Decorating the porches and outside doors with pine limbs to give them that evergreen look and smell. Laying under the Christmas Tree with just the tree lights on planning our sledding adventures for the next day or singing Christmas Carols... My Grandma and Grandpa arguing with each other when they came over for the Holiday meal and the fun times we had with them. I really miss them especially at this time of the year.... That heavy wet snow fall that was great for making snow angels and having snow ball fights. The kind that hangs on the trees especially Pine Trees and makes them look so beautiful. Racing our runner sleds down the driveway (we had a very long driveway) to catch the bus for school and my sister running over her scarf and almost choking herself... and my running over my lunch and squashing it.. but it was the best lunch ever! Getting to see all of the relatives that came to visit during the Holiday Season... and the ones who came after Christmas just to see what you got. The HUGE Chocolate bars my Aunt and Uncle gave us every year... It was the BEST chocolate ever... Making Gingerbread Cookies... my mom had this recipe that made like 12 dozen cookies. My brothers and I would sit at the kitchen table for hours cutting out cookies and decorating them.. by the time they got baked no one wanted any because he had tasted too much of the dough..... back when they didn't have such a fit about those things...Breaking Icicles off from the porch roof and eating them... or making snow pies and eating those.. (never the yellow or brown snow though! )I must admit that I miss living up north during the Holidays.... this trip down memory lane makes me realize that I want to spend Christmas up north ... at least one more time.. Maybe next year I can work things out that I can do that... better start saving my pennies! Knowing my luck if I do go there for Christmas it won't snow! Thanks for letting me share some memories with you. Please feel free to add your own.
posted 11/9/2006 11:55:33 AM
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I was listening to the radio this morning and Christmas was mentioned.. and for whatever reason I started thinking about the Holiday's when I was a kid which triggered some very special memories... Sled riding with my brothers and sisters and cousins.... being so cold you thought you were freezing to death but refused to go inside and warm up because it was just too much fun... Making Homemade Ice-cream... mixing everything together and placing the ice-cream maker in a snow bank so it would freeze faster.. YUM Making Homemade Potato Chips - we would gather in the kitchen and have an assembly line going... someone would wash the potato's, someone would slice them, someone would dry them, someone would place them in the deep fryer and then someone would salt them, and then we'd all enjoy them... nothing better then Homemade Potato Chips and chocolate.... lol Decorating the porches and outside doors with pine limbs to give them that evergreen look and smell. Laying under the Christmas Tree with just the tree lights on planning our sledding adventures for the next day or singing Christmas Carols... My Grandma and Grandpa arguing with each other when they came over for the Holiday meal and the fun times we had with them. I really miss them especially at this time of the year.... That heavy wet snow fall that was great for making snow angels and having snow ball fights. The kind that hangs on the trees especially Pine Trees and makes them look so beautiful. Racing our runner sleds down the driveway (we had a very long driveway) to catch the bus for school and my sister running over her scarf and almost choking herself... and my running over my lunch and squashing it.. but it was the best lunch ever! Getting to see all of the relatives that came to visit during the Holiday Season... and the ones who came after Christmas just to see what you got. The HUGE Chocolate bars my Aunt and Uncle gave us every year... It was the BEST chocolate ever... Making Gingerbread Cookies... my mom had this recipe that made like 12 dozen cookies. My brothers and I would sit at the kitchen table for hours cutting out cookies and decorating them.. by the time they got baked no one wanted any because he had tasted too much of the dough..... back when they didn't have such a fit about those things...Breaking Icicles off from the porch roof and eating them... or making snow pies and eating those.. (never the yellow or brown snow though! )I must admit that I miss living up north during the Holidays.... this trip down memory lane makes me realize that I want to spend Christmas up north ... at least one more time.. Maybe next year I can work things out that I can do that... better start saving my pennies! Knowing my luck if I do go there for Christmas it won't snow! Thanks for letting me share some memories with you. Please feel free to add your own.
Zen Sarcasm and Aunt Mildred
(copied from MD)
posted 12/7/2006 8:02:23 AM
I hope my fellow bloggers and friends will forgive me for not writing much of my own today. I am getting sick.... again... I should have gone for the flu shot.. dang it!!! But NO I decided to take my chances and now I am getting swollen glands again. Just had this crap 2 months ago... YUCK! Hope all is going well in your world! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------1.Do not walk behind me, for I may not lead. Do not walk ahead of me, for I may not follow. Do not walk beside me either. Just pretty much leave me alone. 2.The journey of a thousand miles begins with a broken fan belt and leaky tire. 3.It’s always darkest before dawn. So if you’re going to steal your neighbor’s newspaper, that’s the time to do it. 4.Don’t be irreplaceable. If you can’t be replaced, you can’t be promoted. 5.Always remember that you’re unique just like everyone else. 6.Never test the depth of water with both feet. 7.If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of car payments. 8.Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in his shoes. That way when you criticize him, you’re a mile away and you have his shoes. 9.If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you 10.Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat and drink beer all day. 11.If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it. 12.If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything. 13.Some days you’re the bug: some days you’re the windshield. 14.Everyone seems normal until you get to know him. 15.The quickest way to double your money is fold it in half and put it back in your pocket. 16.A closed mouth gathers no foot. 17.Duct tape is like “the Force” it has a light side and a dark side, and it holds the universe together. 18.There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works. 19.Generally speaking, you aren’t learning much when your lips are moving. 20.Experience is something you don’t get until just after you need it. 21.Never miss a good chance to shut up 22.NEVER, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Aging Aunt Mildred was a 93-year-old woman who was particularly despondent over the recent death of her husband. She decided that she would just kill herself and join him in death.Thinking that it would be best to get it over with quickly, she took out his old Army pistol and made the decision to shoot herself in the heart, since it was badly broken in the first place.Not wanting to miss the vital organ and become a vegetable and a burden to someone, she called her doctor's office to inquire as to just exactly where the heart would be on a woman. The doctor said, "Your heart would be just below your left breast".Later that night........ Mildred was admitted to the hospital with a gunshot wound to her knee. I wish everyone a wonderful Thursday!
posted 12/7/2006 8:02:23 AM
I hope my fellow bloggers and friends will forgive me for not writing much of my own today. I am getting sick.... again... I should have gone for the flu shot.. dang it!!! But NO I decided to take my chances and now I am getting swollen glands again. Just had this crap 2 months ago... YUCK! Hope all is going well in your world! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------1.Do not walk behind me, for I may not lead. Do not walk ahead of me, for I may not follow. Do not walk beside me either. Just pretty much leave me alone. 2.The journey of a thousand miles begins with a broken fan belt and leaky tire. 3.It’s always darkest before dawn. So if you’re going to steal your neighbor’s newspaper, that’s the time to do it. 4.Don’t be irreplaceable. If you can’t be replaced, you can’t be promoted. 5.Always remember that you’re unique just like everyone else. 6.Never test the depth of water with both feet. 7.If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of car payments. 8.Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in his shoes. That way when you criticize him, you’re a mile away and you have his shoes. 9.If at first you don’t succeed, skydiving is not for you 10.Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach him how to fish, and he will sit in a boat and drink beer all day. 11.If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it. 12.If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything. 13.Some days you’re the bug: some days you’re the windshield. 14.Everyone seems normal until you get to know him. 15.The quickest way to double your money is fold it in half and put it back in your pocket. 16.A closed mouth gathers no foot. 17.Duct tape is like “the Force” it has a light side and a dark side, and it holds the universe together. 18.There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works. 19.Generally speaking, you aren’t learning much when your lips are moving. 20.Experience is something you don’t get until just after you need it. 21.Never miss a good chance to shut up 22.NEVER, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Aging Aunt Mildred was a 93-year-old woman who was particularly despondent over the recent death of her husband. She decided that she would just kill herself and join him in death.Thinking that it would be best to get it over with quickly, she took out his old Army pistol and made the decision to shoot herself in the heart, since it was badly broken in the first place.Not wanting to miss the vital organ and become a vegetable and a burden to someone, she called her doctor's office to inquire as to just exactly where the heart would be on a woman. The doctor said, "Your heart would be just below your left breast".Later that night........ Mildred was admitted to the hospital with a gunshot wound to her knee. I wish everyone a wonderful Thursday!
The after Christmas blog
(copied from MD)
posted 12/27/2006 11:41:36 AM
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I hope that everyone enjoyed their Christmas. Mine was good. It was a relaxed day spent with Lotion Boy and my daughter. Life is good. My daughter and I took off for Universal Studios yesterday and spent the day there. We had a great time together even with the cool weather and the rain. We were to have nasty storms on Christmas day but our area got only some rain and nothing else. On our drive to Orlando we saw many trees down and houses damaged. I am very thankful that we did not have that kind of damage and hope and pray that everyone in those areas are ok. Now it's back to work... always wonder if it's worth taking time off when you come back it's hell to get caught up! I've seen the below email many times but it still makes me laugh... Enjoy your day! -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------A Dear John LetterThe ultimate response to a Dear John letter..You gotta love a man like this!!!! Humor in the face of defeat. A Marine was deployed to Afghanistan . While he was there he received a letter from his girlfriend. In the letter she explained that she had slept with two guys while he had been gone and she wanted to break up with him. AND, she wanted pictures of herself back. So the Marine did what any squared-away Marine would do. He went around to his buddies and collected all the unwanted photos of women he could find. He then mailed about 25 pictures of women (with clothes and without) to his girlfriend with the following note: "I don't remember which one you are. Please remove your picture and send the rest back." NOW THERE IS A REAL MARINE. Semper Fi
posted 12/27/2006 11:41:36 AM
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I hope that everyone enjoyed their Christmas. Mine was good. It was a relaxed day spent with Lotion Boy and my daughter. Life is good. My daughter and I took off for Universal Studios yesterday and spent the day there. We had a great time together even with the cool weather and the rain. We were to have nasty storms on Christmas day but our area got only some rain and nothing else. On our drive to Orlando we saw many trees down and houses damaged. I am very thankful that we did not have that kind of damage and hope and pray that everyone in those areas are ok. Now it's back to work... always wonder if it's worth taking time off when you come back it's hell to get caught up! I've seen the below email many times but it still makes me laugh... Enjoy your day! -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------A Dear John LetterThe ultimate response to a Dear John letter..You gotta love a man like this!!!! Humor in the face of defeat. A Marine was deployed to Afghanistan . While he was there he received a letter from his girlfriend. In the letter she explained that she had slept with two guys while he had been gone and she wanted to break up with him. AND, she wanted pictures of herself back. So the Marine did what any squared-away Marine would do. He went around to his buddies and collected all the unwanted photos of women he could find. He then mailed about 25 pictures of women (with clothes and without) to his girlfriend with the following note: "I don't remember which one you are. Please remove your picture and send the rest back." NOW THERE IS A REAL MARINE. Semper Fi
(copied from MD)
posted 12/28/2006 11:30:27 AM
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Sometimes I think it would be best if I just stayed in bed.. pulled the covers up over my head and pretended that I was unavailable for a day or two! lol Well today would have been the perfect day for that... I thought yesterday was bad, catching up with everything from being out a day was nothing compared to the stress from today.. and it's all from one phone call.. ONE tiny phone call can really make a day go from great to crap in about 2.2 seconds..... As many of you know I am in the process of buying a new home... this process has been going on for over a year now...some of it was me wanting to wait until I knew my ex husband could take our daughter for a few weeks so she wouldn't have to be shuffled back and forth to and from school.... and the rest of it was the loan company not being able to figure out how to consolidate bills into a mortgage payment well..... the first loan company was fired in August and the new one took over in September and the new one is making strides like crazy.... if all goes well... closing will be in January .... WOO HOO ..... Any-who... the lady I was going to rent from for the time I need to be out of my old house while the new house is moved in was really nice at first... she's replaced a few things in the house that were damaged from the previous renters and she would like to replace the carpet. When I said I was not sure if we needed the house for the whole month she informed me that if she didn't get a commitment of one month out of me she couldn't buy the carpet and if she couldn't buy the carpet she wouldn't rent to us because it's so disgusting it's not fit for people to live with it.OK.... this really bothers me. First if you want to rent something out to make money you have to SPEND money... if I wasn't renting it from her it would just be sitting there like it has been for the past 6 plus months because they haven't done anything with it since the previous renters moved out... not my problem. or fault... Then she adds.. this will also help compensate me taking your daughter to the bus stop with my grand kids and watching her while you're at work.. WHOA back the bus up Gus..... I NEVER asked for her to take my daughter to the bus stop nor did I ask her to watch her while I am at work.. she's old enough to walk to the bus stop herself and she's old enough to be home alone.. just because her 14 year old grandson and 12 year old granddaughter can't be left alone does not mean that those rules apply at my house.I guess I am different from most people I do not life in fear that something is going to happen to me or my family. I do not worry about things I can not control. I pray for God's protection around me and my family, home, car, etc everyday and then live in faith that they will be protected. This family lives in fear constantly that something is going to happen so much that the kids can't play in the front yard unless an adult is around. Just really bothers me that if I rent from her it's like giving her license to control my life and give her the right to tell me what to do or not do. I can't let my daughter walk to the bus because it's a long way... she walks to the bus stop everyday at my house and it's the same distance.... she can't be home alone because... well she might get scared..... In all honestly this woman is very nice and kind. She'd do almost anything for a person in need. BUT on the same hand she's also really controlling and manipulative. What bothers me most is the people in her life that allow her to do this to them and they do nothing about it but complain.... Now... the question is.. do I rent from her anyway because it's convenient, close, cheap and is best for my family.. or do I continue my search for something else? Either way the stress is really starting to get to me... I am tired all of the time and really just want to sleep all of the time... not that it solves anything but at least I don't have to deal with it.
posted 12/28/2006 11:30:27 AM
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Sometimes I think it would be best if I just stayed in bed.. pulled the covers up over my head and pretended that I was unavailable for a day or two! lol Well today would have been the perfect day for that... I thought yesterday was bad, catching up with everything from being out a day was nothing compared to the stress from today.. and it's all from one phone call.. ONE tiny phone call can really make a day go from great to crap in about 2.2 seconds..... As many of you know I am in the process of buying a new home... this process has been going on for over a year now...some of it was me wanting to wait until I knew my ex husband could take our daughter for a few weeks so she wouldn't have to be shuffled back and forth to and from school.... and the rest of it was the loan company not being able to figure out how to consolidate bills into a mortgage payment well..... the first loan company was fired in August and the new one took over in September and the new one is making strides like crazy.... if all goes well... closing will be in January .... WOO HOO ..... Any-who... the lady I was going to rent from for the time I need to be out of my old house while the new house is moved in was really nice at first... she's replaced a few things in the house that were damaged from the previous renters and she would like to replace the carpet. When I said I was not sure if we needed the house for the whole month she informed me that if she didn't get a commitment of one month out of me she couldn't buy the carpet and if she couldn't buy the carpet she wouldn't rent to us because it's so disgusting it's not fit for people to live with it.OK.... this really bothers me. First if you want to rent something out to make money you have to SPEND money... if I wasn't renting it from her it would just be sitting there like it has been for the past 6 plus months because they haven't done anything with it since the previous renters moved out... not my problem. or fault... Then she adds.. this will also help compensate me taking your daughter to the bus stop with my grand kids and watching her while you're at work.. WHOA back the bus up Gus..... I NEVER asked for her to take my daughter to the bus stop nor did I ask her to watch her while I am at work.. she's old enough to walk to the bus stop herself and she's old enough to be home alone.. just because her 14 year old grandson and 12 year old granddaughter can't be left alone does not mean that those rules apply at my house.I guess I am different from most people I do not life in fear that something is going to happen to me or my family. I do not worry about things I can not control. I pray for God's protection around me and my family, home, car, etc everyday and then live in faith that they will be protected. This family lives in fear constantly that something is going to happen so much that the kids can't play in the front yard unless an adult is around. Just really bothers me that if I rent from her it's like giving her license to control my life and give her the right to tell me what to do or not do. I can't let my daughter walk to the bus because it's a long way... she walks to the bus stop everyday at my house and it's the same distance.... she can't be home alone because... well she might get scared..... In all honestly this woman is very nice and kind. She'd do almost anything for a person in need. BUT on the same hand she's also really controlling and manipulative. What bothers me most is the people in her life that allow her to do this to them and they do nothing about it but complain.... Now... the question is.. do I rent from her anyway because it's convenient, close, cheap and is best for my family.. or do I continue my search for something else? Either way the stress is really starting to get to me... I am tired all of the time and really just want to sleep all of the time... not that it solves anything but at least I don't have to deal with it.
National Day of Mourning...
(copied from MD)
posted 1/2/2007 8:40:02 AM
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Wow, the silence at work today is overwhelming... I think most of us are napping... recouping from the weekend. None of us are party people so I know it's not from that... mine is from not sleeping well, and having a lot on my mind... trying to organize my life, exercising more, eating less and saving more money... and LEAVING IT THERE! lolI'm hoping that my resolution lasts longer this year then last... one can hope ... right? lol Well today has been deemed A National Day of Mourning for former President Ford. This means that there is no mail today... which means there is no work for us because our job depends on a high mail volume of claims for processing. This means tomorrow we will be slammed with so much work we won't be able to have time to think! This also means... today is going to be either a good day to catch up on the things I let slide previously... clean out my desk and organize.. or a long boring day counting the minutes until time to go home! I'm thinking it's best to stay busy so that the day doesn't drag any longer then necessary... so to help with that I've found a list of simple home remedies that I thought I'd share with everyone here. Have a wonderful day! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------AMAZINGLY SIMPLE HOME REMEDIES 1. If you are choking on an ice cube, don't panic.Simply pour a cup of boiling water down your throat and presto, theblockage will be almost instantly removed.2. Clumsy? Avoid cutting yourself while slicing vegetables by gettingsomeone else to hold them while you chop away.3. Avoid arguments with the Mrs. about lifting the toilet seat bysimply using the sink.4. For high blood pressure sufferers: simply cut yourself and bleedfor a few minutes, thus reducing the pressure in your veins. Rememberto use a timer.5. A mouse trap, placed on top of your alarm clock, will prevent youfrom rolling over and going back to sleep after you hit the snoozebutton.6. If you have a bad cough, take a large dose of laxatives; then youwill be afraid to cough.7. Have a bad toothache? Smash your thumb with a hammer and you willforget about the toothache.Sometimes, we just need to remember what the rules of life really are:You only need two tools: WD-40 and Duct Tape.1. If it doesn't move and should, use the WD-40.2. If it shouldn't move and does, use the duct tape.Remember:- Everyone seems normal until you get to know them.- Never pass up an opportunity to go to the bathroom.- If you woke up breathing, congratulations! You get another chance.- And finally, be really nice to your family and friends; you neverknow when you might need them to empty your bedpan.
posted 1/2/2007 8:40:02 AM
1 kudo
Wow, the silence at work today is overwhelming... I think most of us are napping... recouping from the weekend. None of us are party people so I know it's not from that... mine is from not sleeping well, and having a lot on my mind... trying to organize my life, exercising more, eating less and saving more money... and LEAVING IT THERE! lolI'm hoping that my resolution lasts longer this year then last... one can hope ... right? lol Well today has been deemed A National Day of Mourning for former President Ford. This means that there is no mail today... which means there is no work for us because our job depends on a high mail volume of claims for processing. This means tomorrow we will be slammed with so much work we won't be able to have time to think! This also means... today is going to be either a good day to catch up on the things I let slide previously... clean out my desk and organize.. or a long boring day counting the minutes until time to go home! I'm thinking it's best to stay busy so that the day doesn't drag any longer then necessary... so to help with that I've found a list of simple home remedies that I thought I'd share with everyone here. Have a wonderful day! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------AMAZINGLY SIMPLE HOME REMEDIES 1. If you are choking on an ice cube, don't panic.Simply pour a cup of boiling water down your throat and presto, theblockage will be almost instantly removed.2. Clumsy? Avoid cutting yourself while slicing vegetables by gettingsomeone else to hold them while you chop away.3. Avoid arguments with the Mrs. about lifting the toilet seat bysimply using the sink.4. For high blood pressure sufferers: simply cut yourself and bleedfor a few minutes, thus reducing the pressure in your veins. Rememberto use a timer.5. A mouse trap, placed on top of your alarm clock, will prevent youfrom rolling over and going back to sleep after you hit the snoozebutton.6. If you have a bad cough, take a large dose of laxatives; then youwill be afraid to cough.7. Have a bad toothache? Smash your thumb with a hammer and you willforget about the toothache.Sometimes, we just need to remember what the rules of life really are:You only need two tools: WD-40 and Duct Tape.1. If it doesn't move and should, use the WD-40.2. If it shouldn't move and does, use the duct tape.Remember:- Everyone seems normal until you get to know them.- Never pass up an opportunity to go to the bathroom.- If you woke up breathing, congratulations! You get another chance.- And finally, be really nice to your family and friends; you neverknow when you might need them to empty your bedpan.
Rules for dating my daughter (from a mans perspective)
(copied from MD)
posted 1/10/2007 8:58:22 AM
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Rule One:If you pull into my driveway and honk you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up.
Rule Two:You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter's body, I will remove them.
Rule Three:I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.
Rule Four:I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilizing a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.
Rule Five:It is usually understood that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is "early."
Rule Six:I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
Rule Seven:As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?
Rule Eight:The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka - zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which features chain saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.
Rule Nine:Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.
Rule Ten:Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy near Hanoi. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit your car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car - there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face at the window is mine.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Reminds me of the Television show. "8 Simple Rules for Dating my Daughter" with John Ritter. Just not the same without him but was a good show. I can totally see my ex-husband doing these things when it comes time for our daughter to start dating.. which of course won't be until she's 30! lol high school, college, career started THEN she can date! Just kidding folks... Have a great day!
posted 1/10/2007 8:58:22 AM
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Rule One:If you pull into my driveway and honk you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up.
Rule Two:You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter's body, I will remove them.
Rule Three:I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.
Rule Four:I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilizing a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.
Rule Five:It is usually understood that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is "early."
Rule Six:I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
Rule Seven:As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?
Rule Eight:The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka - zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which features chain saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.
Rule Nine:Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.
Rule Ten:Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy near Hanoi. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit your car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car - there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face at the window is mine.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Reminds me of the Television show. "8 Simple Rules for Dating my Daughter" with John Ritter. Just not the same without him but was a good show. I can totally see my ex-husband doing these things when it comes time for our daughter to start dating.. which of course won't be until she's 30! lol high school, college, career started THEN she can date! Just kidding folks... Have a great day!
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