Honesty continued

(copied from MD)
posted 2/4/2006 6:47:36 AM

I got amazing feelback from my Honesty blog... seems a few of you agree with me on the friends with benefits subject. Even if this is the type of relationship you want or are looking for I have no problems with that in particular...... my main problem, main complaint, main issue..... would be the muliple friends with the benefits at one time.... and from my own personal experiences being told I want too much from a relationship? huh?? Expecting "faithfulness" in the bedroom department is expecting TOO MUCH??? I think there once was a time when a men slept with a woman he married her... I know things have changed haven't they? but when did the respect, the determination and commitment to make a relationship work turn into a conquest to see just how many people you can "have" in your life and go out and have fun instead of "committing" to one woman and having fun with just her? or one man and having fun with just him? I am not completely innocent myself so I am not passing judgment here I am just opening our eyes a bit. I've read many blogs on this site and if you haven't maybe you'd be surprised at the number of women writing about the married men on here looking for some "fun" some "intimate encounters" because their love life at home sucks.. and I am sure there's women on here doing the same.. well PEOPLE why does it suck at home? why not put your effort into making it work at home and if you can't then have the respect for yourself and your spouse to end it and then look for your "fun" after you have the consideration of being honest with your spouse.. I will give my ex husband credit in that department.. he wasn't happy - he told me - he left.. I was hurt at first because he wouldn't even try to make things better but at least he had enough respect for me and had enough ba**s to be honest about how he was feeling... it's taken a few years but we are great friends again which is a wonderful thing for our daughter. I guess this whole blog kind of comes down to people who are just plain selfish.. it's ok to be selfish once in a while we all need to do things for ourselves that makes us happy but a constant desire to just go out and play with others feelings is just wrong.. and as someone so nicely reminded me.. we can't change other people.. we can only change ourselves into the self respecting, full of self esteem and confident people we once were before we allowed the negatives of the world to ensnare us.. so here's to making myself a better person!