My weekend...

(copied from MD)

posted 8/9/2006 8:10:41 AM

finally write the blog I have been putting off for the past few days. Ready? Well... some of you already know that my weekend wasn't a very good one. It started on Friday morning when I took my daughter to the dr for a check up before school. What the dr told her about exercise and eating right just totally put the kid into a negative mood. (It wasn't anything she hadn't heard before from her parents but it didn't go over very well) We then headed to the store. My daughter was looking forward to purchasing a few items with the money she had earned from feeding the neighbors cat while they were on vacation and from doing chores around our house. Now... as I mentioned before if she whines in a store she gets nothing... even if it's her money. Is this wrong of me? I don't think so. After all she is 12 if she can't behave then why should she get what she wants? Well... she didn't really whine but when she came to me and asked if she could have something that cost $30 that wasn't something she was going to use more then once and I said "No" the attitude OMG was totally mind blowing. (This should have been my second clue that the weekend was off to a horrible start... right?) Well I gave the benefit of the doubt... (That will teach me! LOL) She got over the fit and purchased a few craft things instead of the $30 X-box game that wasn't something I wanted her playing to begin with. Get home... time to cut the grass. This, yes you guessed it, did not go over well with the "Princess". So I made a deal (never again!!!!!! ha) I would cut the grass, both front and back yards if she washed my car... WELL!!!!! Needless to say, the grass got cut and the car got a quick swipe with a rag. When I told her she had to rewash it she stormed into the house and started slamming doors and telling me "I'm not washing it again, if you don't like it do it yourself." Ok, I can deal with that. Away went the "new school shoes" the ones we just HAD TO HAVE!!!! Now that just caused another fit... Come on kid... you're 12 not 3. Got through that crisis and survived the rest of the day. Whew... breathing... nice... calm... quiet... ah beautiful peace. Saturday... I made the horrible mistake of telling her to clean her room. OMG WHAT? How dare I tell her that? She began, I kid you not, to scream, yell, throw things, tried to hit me and then began this possessed type behavior of rocking back and forth saying I was trying to kill her... (A swat on the butt isn’t a life threatening blow sweetheart)Well hon, I did bring you into the world and I could take you out very easily... but I don't want to spend the rest of my life in jail so that ain't gonna happen. But ya keep it up and we might be looking at the possibility! After 30 minutes of this type of behavior and me trying to get her to shut up long enough to breathe before she hyperventilated she finally stopped balling and got a grip. (This was only after telling her to get in the car we were going to the hospital to see what her problem was )Later after her room was cleaned, (see mom always wins!) the house was picked up and she was calmed down. I asked her what brought on that nasty behavior... her answer."You took away my shoes and I thought if I behaved like that you'd give them back so I'd stop" Oh dear child, do you not know who I am? I am the mom, the parent, the person in charge of your butt... I will not, do not, can not be bought, bribed or conned into giving in to your fit throwing tantrums no matter how much you scare me with your "possessed" behavior. It just doesn't work that way. You are a gift from God. God gave me the responsibility to raise you and make you into a wonderful adult. I just wish you'd realize it would be a lot easier if you'd just listen to me... the first time I tell you to do something! I won't even touch on what happened on Sunday... I think that is enough for now.! Let's just say I was very happy when Monday rolled around. I couldn't wait to get to work ... just so I could relax!