One Nighters...

(copied from MD)
posted 8/23/2006 7:31:18 PM



So I promised a self written blog... don't blame me if it's not as good as it could be. I've been having a little problem with my thoughts scattering every which way but together... I'm thinking my new highlights soaked into my brain and now I truly am a blonde instead of just periodically thinking like one! The past week or so it seems I've had the same conversation with people... mainly men, because, well let's face it, it's something men think about.... A LOT! Most women think about it a great deal too but we just don't advertise it like men do... When I first started blogging I wrote several blogs about a similar subject, friends with benefits... But since that was so long ago, I didn't think you'd mind if I revisited the topic again. If you do then move on to the next blog cause I don't want to hear your complaints. I'm sure you can find a blogger who brags about his endowments and one who feels he's holier then everyone. But me.. I just blog because I can't afford a damn therapist. One of my friends has been trying to convince me I need to loosen up and go out and have a few one nighters instead of concentrating on finding the one or a long term relationship. He feels that I am missing my opportunity at just enjoying life and kicking up my heels and having fun.I've tried to explain to him that it's just not for me. But he keeps pressing the issue. He seems to think I am not being open to new experiences or living outside the box.. Here's my feeling on the subject of one nighters and me... I am not virgin in the one nighter department ok? Been there... experienced it(some weren't planned ya know? people LIE )... it worked for a while.. now it's not me. Obviously my friend doesn't think I've experienced it enough. He'll just have to deal with it. And realize it's my BODY and my LIFE to do with what I see fit. . What he's not taking into consideration... because he's married he doesn't have this problem... going home alone night after night gets old. But going home night after night with a different man just plan drops a persons self esteem in the crapper and causes so many issues they have to blog about them on a dating site! I don't see a one nighter sticking around to fix the sink when it leaks or change the oil in my car. Nope... I'm at home doing those things myself so what would be the advantage of one nighters again? Where's the one nighter going to be when I discover I "caught" something? Yea that's what I thought... NO WHERE TO BE FOUND. And I'd want to be involved in that life style ... why again? fun? living life to the fullest? Seriously.. if a person knows what they want out of life why waste my time trying to convince me to think differently? Yea being single sucks... going home to an empty house without someone to share my day with sucks.. not having someone to hold me when I have had a bad day sucks.... but one nighters wouldn't give me any of that anyway so why can't I just sit and wait for the right one to come along? If I don't have a problem with my life why should you? I'd have to say jealousy... We all make decisions in our lives that we have to live by. My decision to stop dating and stop the insanity of one nighters is my decision and a good one... FOR ME!!!! It really has nothing to do with you or what you think I should be doing. Thank you very much! Whew... I feel so much better having shared that. lol